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Apytele

@ Apytele @sh.itjust.works

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I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I'm going to troll you back. FAFO.

  • How do you beat post-work floppiness?

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  • It's funny that this is about work life balance because I'm trying to catch some sleep before my fourth twelve in a row and my acute psych nurse brain just went nooo nooooooo oh noooooooooooo but assuming you never experience significant mania, psychosis, or delirium, I LOVE that for you.

    Fuuuck we got an Amish patient one time, manic as hell (and you have to be pretty damn hyperreligious for your Amish family to get you committed) and EVERY time we had to tussle security would come out of it like "DAMN we were NOT expecting that from a first glance!" Wiry little thing but once you'd had to deal with it first hand you found out a few things about old-fashioned farm work!

  • What's your opinion on communism?

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  • DOB opens you up to ageism, but I agree that it's probably the least problematic item. A lot of other trans spec people do NOT like hearing that they should avoid changing their sex on their ID / other documents unless passing is an immediate safety concern. I'm already highly uncomfortable that the government knows what genitals I had as an infant. I have no interest in giving them any more information on how I currently dress or how that might or might not be related to my current genitals. They just do not need to know. It's proprietary information.

    I do think there needs to be some kind of granular way to educate people on how to identify and disrupt abusive power structures. The problem is that society changes so rapidly that however abusive power structures are described is quickly adopted and DARVOed¹ by the person already in power to describe people they don't like. The second you start talking about removedness and cancelation they start wordspamming it into (hopefully just) meaninglessness.

    This fight has gone on since before written history and will probably continue until long after we are dead. It's the same way a niche anti-establishment death cult became a major world religion by just becoming a new oppressive regime. The message got taken and twisted to the ends of the powerful like all such messages do. No one has yet figured out a way to unambiguously preserve that meaning over time. If it's even possible, it won't be happening soon.

    1. Deny, Accuse, Reverse Victim / Offender
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    How do middle aged family men handle it?

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  • I wanna know where the other social supports are. If neither of you have family that give a fuck where are her mom friends and where are your dad friends so you guys can pool childcare? (There are also other configurations, the gendered model is just the most common).

  • Lemmings over 30 who try to stay active, what are you doing to accommodate for your incredibly decrepit bodies to avoid boo-boos?

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  • Also people tend to enjoy things more when they get injured less doing them.

  • What's an artificial limitation you put on yourself that has improved your personal life?

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  • "Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary?" Shoot for two but make sure it's at least one. And if you ever by chance come across a trifecta, don't let it escape unsaid!

    I also notice working in mental healthcare that a lot of my coworkers have realized some of the patients really do need "tough love" but they don't realize that the Love part is critical. And it's obviously not romantic love but also not even love in any personal sense. It's love in the better version of the Bible sense where you should love your fellow human beings. When you say something that someone isn't going to like hearing for their own good, you need to start with a practical statement of why you're saying it out of love.

    So I'll say "I don't just want to give you ice cream today; I want you to know how to ask other people when you leave here. I'm going to give you about fifteen minutes to go to your room and breathe, then you can come back and get in line and ask again." While some of my coworkers will just say "no I'm not gonna let you talk to me like that" which isn't wrong, but also isn't actually tough love because they forgot the love.

  • If God was real (just go with it), then how he's portrayed in the Bible might not even be how he actually is.

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  • Some gnostic Christian sects took their Zoroastrian roots a little more seriously than mainstream Christianity and argued that the God of the old testament is actually the demiurge.

    The demiurge is an evil / misguided shadow of the true God caused by Sophia (the concept of pure wisdom) attempting to reproduce without the male half of her syzygy. As a result, the demiurge was created and dragged her out of heaven when he fell and tried to recreate heaven with the bits of her soul he still had. Humans on earth are just the little bits of Sophia's soul tapped in the shadow of heaven that he made. Eventually they will reach gnosis (similar to the Buddhist Nirvana) and ascend back out of the kenoma (shadow heaven) and back into the pleroma (true heaven). Jesus (who was also the serpent in the garden of eden) is the male half of Sophia's syzygy who came to earth for the second time to awaken the sparks of her soul so they can ascend.

    I'm simplifying some things and smoothing the narrative to make sense since the reason Gnosticism never did as well as mainstream Christianity is the lack of a consistent narrative with which to create in-groups and out-groups to wage holy wars over, so the ones that did wiped them out. And for example I do consider myself gnostic but I mostly stay away from the metaphysical stuff other than in ways that they represent concepts important to a healthy life like mediation. I hope you enjoyed reading though!

  • What are some of your favorite digital tools?

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  • localsend

    I am super interested in this, do you know if it can track versions and support regular backups? I was actually just trying to find out if there's a way for my phone to sync / backup my documents, pictures, and possibly even calendars and contacts with our home computer while I'm home, especially right when I get home, and maybe on a scheduled basis right before I usually leave for work. I've been looking into de-googling and honestly I'm wondering why a lot of my info needs to be stored in the cloud at all? Maybe one monthly or quarterly backup to an encrypted service like tresorit but for the most part I think it'll be fine to just let my devices back themselves up with each other on my home network?

  • Whats your hot take on something that doesnt matter at all?

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  • Depends on the reason it's being taped but yeah, 99.99% with you, that's how I do it most of the time.

  • Whats your hot take on something that doesnt matter at all?

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  • ty this always struck me as odd but yeah that makes prefect sense now that I see it written that way. Obviously it's a marketing thing. Obviously!

  • [ Voting for Weekly Challenge #98 ] Eldritch

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  • You deserved better tbh you were one of my top 3 contenders.

  • [ Voting for Weekly Challenge #98 ] Eldritch

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  • idk I thought it was my responsibility.

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