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Ember James

@ Arkouda @lemmy.ca

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  • Apologies for the misunderstanding. I did not realize that I was notified only because you @ me, not responded to me, so I responded as though it was directed at me.

    Don't take too much of an issue with it. I misunderstood the situation, and dealt with it as such. No hate on new accounts generally, but being here for a year has me seeing new accounts as a big red flag.

    Again, apologies for the misunderstanding!

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    Because I am a dumb dumb and apparently cannot Lemmy, ignore this comment. Leaving it up to show how silly I can be.

    I feel quite silly explaining this, because it seems like you probably don’t want a real answer, but “they” is used when referring to a general group of people.

    The singular use of "they/them" has existed since the 14th century, and is not simply "a general group of people' by definition in modern English.

    @[email protected] was answering in a way that could be applied to anyone, including OP’s son.

    I find the advice to be universal, so what is the problem with it being applied to anyone?

    Why be exclusive when you can be inclusive?

    Why do you believe neutral language meant to include every one is exclusionary?

    Why try to turn a wholesome comment into a gender-war?

    The only people I see making this a "gender war" are you, the two month old account, and the 12 day old account who also responded after being triggered by neutral language. I am open to a good faith discussion about this, but you will need to demonstrate your good faith in the next reply if you want that.

    Otherwise, take care.

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  • She’s talking about her twelve-year-old son, and that’s specified. What reason could you possibly have for using “they/them”?

    I generally try to default to neutral terms. There is no need to get this triggered over my choice to use neutral pronouns.

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  • I don't see it as a problem, even long term. I think children are allowed to seek comfort when they need it from their parents.

    The only thing I would say is that because this isn't normal behavior, and started recently, you should have a talk with them about why they are feeling the need to sleep with you now. It could be an underlying issue or it could be that they are experiencing stressors in life they aren't able to cope with.

    Either way, talking to them about it would be the best idea.

  • Obligatory monthly "what's your hot take?" question

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  • I didn't realize this was a thing for me until now, but that sentence grinds all of my gears, and I hate it.

  • Recommend a Beavis and Butt-head episode to initiate Gen Z'ers

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  • Fair point!

    If the end goal is moving to Idiocracy, I do not remember exactly the episode but I do remember Beavis and Butthead met people who were dumber than them, which was the whole episode, and the humour felt a lot like what Idiocracy was as a whole.

    It has been a long time since I saw the show so hopefully you know what I am talking about, and that I am not misremembering it. haha

  • Recommend a Beavis and Butt-head episode to initiate Gen Z'ers

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  • If I am being honest I do not think Gen Z'ers as a whole would appreciate that kind of humour based on my experience with people in that age group. Obviously not a universal rule, but that kind of humour doesn't seem very relevant to newer generations.

  • How much of a deal breaker would be a high body count for you?

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  • I have no qualms about the past of people I am sexually active with as long as they are clean and safe. Considering how many people I have been with, I would be a hypocrite if it mattered to me.

    As far as when it is appropriate to share, I would say as soon as one is comfortable if at all. At the end of the day even a romantic partner does not have a right to every piece of information on you, and if a lot of sexual partners is a deal breaker to anyone involved the relationship shouldn't continue in the first place. Incompatible values tend to ruin relationships.

  • [Politics] What is, in your opinion, a necessary set of minimal restrictions on freedom of thought, speech and expression?

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  • One is merely an observer of their thoughts. The reason for this is there is a delay from Stimulus and Brain activity before the Conscious awareness of the stimulus and brain activity. This natural delay causes us to assume that we are consciously making choices, and thinking on our own.

    The core idea that I believe in here is that Humans do not have free will. We cannot control our actions or thoughts, and we merely observe them with our conscious mind.

  • [Politics] What is, in your opinion, a necessary set of minimal restrictions on freedom of thought, speech and expression?

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  • Are you saying that there should be no limits to free speech and free expression, with no exceptions?

  • [Politics] What is, in your opinion, a necessary set of minimal restrictions on freedom of thought, speech and expression?

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  • There should be no restrictions on freedom of thought. Simple reason: One cannot control their thoughts.

    I think speech and expression should be limited in ways that prevent negative outcomes for individuals or populations of people based on immutable characteristics like sexuality, skin colour, ethnic background, etc.

    I can see no reason why anyone should ever be allowed to use free speech to incite violence, or expressing oneself in a way that is destructive to others. There should be no reason why we allow people to target others with slurs.

    There are already laws restricting speech and expression in numerous ways. For example: one cannot utter threats to another person, even though they are not physically doing anything and operating with "free speech".

    If one cannot speak or express themselves without hurting others I see no reason why that should be tolerated in modern civilizations.

  • Do you have a "GroundNews" subscription, and if so what has the experience been like? Would you recommend it?

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  • The idea that news transport ideologies that need to be evened out is flawed from the get-go.

    News must be factual and free of ideology. If you consume news that carry a bias (either way) then it is time to find other news sources.

    Yes, it is flawed from start because it is supposed to be News. Yes it must be factual and free of ideology to accomplish the goal of informing people about the facts.

    Unfortunately humans are inherently biased, and it isn't as easy as you are making it seem to drop trust worthy sources with some bias in favour of other factual sources without bias in the current climate.

  • Do you have a "GroundNews" subscription, and if so what has the experience been like? Would you recommend it?

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  • What do people get out of reading “both sides” (or all sides) of editorialized news? Specifically compared to just reading the facts of the situation.

    For me it is about knowing what potential rhetoric and falsehoods are being spread outside of simply what the facts are.

    I find this important because many people who are discussing "facts" that they have read in editorialized articles, with editorializing being a widespread and dangerous issue, are usually also pushing the narrative of the article. It is helpful for me to know how the facts are being spun in order to have a productive discussion because I can prepare for the rhetoric, and try to keep it on the facts.

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  • Thank you for the time and opinion!

    Probably going to do a little more digging before I make a decision, and I appreciate your help.

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  • What kind of push back have you been seeing? I haven't seen any myself and you aren't the first to bring it up so If you can point me anywhere that would be helpful!

    I am okay at doing that myself as well, but it is more of a time issue than a skill issue for me. I spend too much time trying to keep up with the news I find important. haha

    That sounds like a very good use for it, especially considering how horrible being glued to Fox is. I wish your Mom well and hopefully it can help pull her partner out of the Fox sphere!

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  • What tier are you currently using?

    I was thinking about the bottom $10 myself just for the breakdowns and such because I don't want to spend all day hunting sources. haha

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  • This was my red flag as well. I trust my sources that are advertising it, and haven't seen any bad sources advertising it, so I figured it best to ask just in case.

    Have you seen any notably bad sources advertising it? I feel like I may not have the full picture.

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  • Thank you for sharing this. I will take a look into it.

    Is it actually free or is it "free" for the low low price of my private data?

  • What are good final words?

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  • I know I did.