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Blazingtransfem98

@ Blazingtransfem98 @discuss.online

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A 32 year old trans girl living without easy access to trans affirming care. On DIY-HRT for the last 6 years. She/they please, preferably she/her. Will not tolerate transphobia or bigotry of any kind.

Before you ask, yes I do have an eyepatch in real life. I'm completely blind in my left eye.

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    [Rant] Why do people in the trans community never talk about voice surgery or acknowledge that it's necessary for some folks

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  • You do have a point, when I said it's necessary I meant from my situation where cis passing is extremely important due to risk of violence and my fear of violence, my dysphoria is a huge part but fear of being beaten for not passing is also very big. It's happened before my picrew doesn't have an eyepatch for style, I was attacked for being trans and it left me permanently blind in my left eye, and I wear an eyepatch to cover up my non-functional left eye. I know that the pressure to cis pass isn't healthy and that in an ideal world it would only be about alleviating my dysphoria. It really sucks that I have to be afraid to speak in public because someone could clock me and get violent. I don't mean to put people in difficult situations I was just scared and wanted to know in the moment if my voice sounded alright or if I was at risk of being clocked.

    I know that VFS isn't a magic bullet and I do know that training is still worthwhile, it has had an effect, it just isn't enough on its own to make me sound not masculine. Which is why I've said I need it in order to be able to pass.

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    [Rant] Why do people in the trans community never talk about voice surgery or acknowledge that it's necessary for some folks

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  • knowing the person is enough to change your perception of their voice

    Maybe but honestly that's not good enough, it's paramount that I pass without being clocked, sounding fem to people I know and who like me is nice but it's not enough. It won't prevent me from ending up dead in an alley because some Neonazi heard me talking and instantly clocked me.

    I don't have the luxury of being openly trans and visibly queer, not without getting hurt, possibly killed.

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    [Rant] Why do people in the trans community never talk about voice surgery or acknowledge that it's necessary for some folks

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  • At this point I'd take the risk, I can't stand my voice so much that even if there was a risk of it making me mute I'd take it even for even a slim chance to just sound like a normal cis girl.

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  • Congrats girl, you look stunning.

  • [vent] I guess the egg finally cracked today and I hate it

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  • Hey there girl it's alright, things will be okay. It's natural not to like the idea at first but I'll give you some advice. You're trans whether you like it or not, things will go easier if you accept it sooner rather than later and start doing things to affirm your identity and make yourself comfortable, even little things.

    I resisted for a very long time. I only transitioned on DIY hormones a few years ago, and before that there were many many signs but I ignored or resisted them like an idiot. I think I used to believe one could choose to be trans 🤦‍♀️. Obviously that didn't work and I'm trans, as much as it's brought me hardship and suffering. I am glad though that I did come out eventually and began the journey of transitioning, a lot of the stress, depression, and dysphoria has gotten better because of it. I hope someday I'll be able to fully transition (voice surgery and bottom surgery) but at this point I'm not there yet, and probably won't be for a while since surgeries are expensive.

  • Who said you can't immerse yourself when playing with the opposite gender?

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  • No, there is a big difference between trying to help someone discover themselves and denying a person's gender identity. To argue that they are the same is Transphobic TERF garbage meant to spread the idea that being trans is wrong or abnormal.

    You are right to acknowledge that this will never be productive. Arguing with TERFs rarely is.

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  • traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns @lemmy.ca
    Blazingtransfem98 @discuss.online

    Who said you can't immerse yourself when playing with the opposite gender? Cracking intensifies

  • Who said you can't immerse yourself when playing with the opposite gender?

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  • Being trans isn't a choice and our society already stigmatizes being trans so people deny it or won't accept it and make up dumb excuses to not accept the fact they are a trans girl. But people need to come out because being closeted isn't healthy, and the sooner the better. Why are you so against trans people coming out and accepting themselves as trans?

  • Who said you can't immerse yourself when playing with the opposite gender?

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  • Who said you can't immerse yourself when playing with the opposite gender?

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  • Who said you can't immerse yourself when playing with the opposite gender?

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  • Gender is not bullshit, gender is real and trans people are real. Stop spreading stupid anti-trans rhetoric. People who feel and express a certain gender are more likely to be that gender, even if that gender doesn't align with their assigned gender at birth.

  • Who said you can't immerse yourself when playing with the opposite gender?

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  • Because gender is not a construct you stupid TERF, gender is real and trans people are real. Get that through your thick head.

  • Who said you can't immerse yourself when playing with the opposite gender?

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    Do you all think Draconic NEO will make a pretty girl?

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  • SLAYYYYY

  • traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns @lemmy.ca
    Blazingtransfem98 @discuss.online

    How it feels to paint my nails

  • Drinking the Gender Fluid rule

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  • You should learn about Tor just in case you have to buy your hormones from underground from .onion sites. Also helps in case they start censoring information on it, or trying to track users who look that stuff up.

  • Drinking the Gender Fluid rule

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  • When I questioned them about the requirement they said they needed to make sure I wouldn't regret it. Asshole literally laughed when I looked him in the eye! He was lying to me about that reason, the real reason was perfectly clear to me.

  • Drinking the Gender Fluid rule

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  • They were able to diagnose me with gender dysphoria but they wouldn't give me treatment officially unless I pretended to be a woman for them, they probably really thought it would be funny for someone who looks just like a man to wear a dress and lipstick with face stubble. Right? So funny? Fuckin chasers. (Yes I'm calling my old doctor and my therapist chasers because they wanted me to dress like a woman without looking like one, they were so pissed when they saw me again post-DIY HRT)

  • Drinking the Gender Fluid rule

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  • Fuck transmedicalists, those fuckers wanted me to pretend to be a woman because it's really funny to see a man desperately pretending to be a woman or they wouldn't let me have HRT legitimately. Thankfully I was able to buy Estrogen and blockers on the black market so who's laughing now?

  • Affirmations rule

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  • Yeah thankfully my dysphoria isn't anywhere near that bad anymore since the fucker shrank so much on estrogen, I do hope that sometime in the future I won't have this nub sticking out of me anymore and will have a nice vagina (I'll even settle for 0 depth, just to stop having a thing sticking out of me).

  • Steam is 'an unsafe place for teens and young adults': US senator warns Gabe Newell of 'more intense scrutiny' from the government if Valve doesn't take action against extremist content

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  • It happens in games that have chat as well, mostly shooter games like CS2 and TF2. Consider yourself lucky if you haven't encountered people like that, they're not hard to miss unfortunately in those games.

  • Fediverse @lemmy.ml
    Blazingtransfem98 @discuss.online

    Transphobia in the fediverse

    discuss.online /post/12273255