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ButteryMonkey

@ ButteryMonkey @piefed.social

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  • Aquaruleium [Part 1]

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  • Interesting, thanks for the answer :)

    I remember my mom playing around with stained glass for a while back around 2004, because the house needed a repair of some old leaded glass and why not learn more? She was using lead stuff but idk if that was because it was the only thing available or if it was just to use the same materials.

  • Aquaruleium [Part 1]

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  • Does stained glass still use leaded metal to hold the glass together?

  • What valuable resources are out there for men to learn about themselves?

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  • Excellent, thank you for the suggestion :)

  • What valuable resources are out there for men to learn about themselves?

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  • This is correct. I want to see what kind of resources are out there which men find helpful, and would want to share with other men. Doesn’t have to be specific to men. I know what I’ve found that’s helpful for myself, but I don’t have the perspective to know what someone with a mostly different life experience than my own would find helpful.

  • .... huh...

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  • The thing to the right of the egg? It’s a turtle.

  • What valuable resources are out there for men to learn about themselves?

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  • I know of two things that I thought were good and they are intro level and maybe a bit more advanced but interesting, so I’ll just post the important bit, albeit reworded, of my other comment for visibility in case it helps anyone or whatever.

    The first is Why is the Penis Shaped Like That? and other reflections on being human by Jesse Bering. It’s a sort of lighthearted approach to male bodies and other weird quirks of being alive, written by a research psychologist, as well as a columnist for science communication publications like Scientific American. He’s also a gay man who really likes penis stuff. I cannot not mention that, because he himself mentions it as part of his credentials within various articles.

    The second is a book mostly about how penis things go wrong, testicular torsion, various kinds of erectile dysfunction and how they get fixed and stuff, it isn’t strictly informational, more like case studies that have been anonymized. It’s called Why Men Fake it, the totally unexpected truth about men and sex by Abraham Morgentaler, a urologist and sexual dysfunction specialist.

    Both of these are good not super scientific explorations of things you may want to know, but don’t. I learned a lot and enjoyed the process.

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    ButteryMonkey @piefed.social

    What valuable resources are out there for men to learn about themselves?

  • social interaction

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  • My sister gave it to me for Christmas or my birthday or something. No idea where she got it, I always assumed online.

  • If it were possible to travel back in time and manipulate events, we could take a book back in time and publish it before the author historically does... as a prank...

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  • Send Wikipedia. Oooooooh that’d do it. And it’s probably about as close to objective as can be hoped, I know it actually isn’t, nothing can be, but it’s overall close.

  • social interaction

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  • I have a T-shirt from like 20 years ago that says the same thing but t-shirt instead of doormat :) same color scheme and layout and everything.

  • Lucky enough, I am C++ Developer

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  • RStudio and SQL are the only ones of those things I’m aware of having experience with (no idea what language rimworld is coded in, but I’ve also only read that, not tried to modify it).

    But if some dude wanted to spend a bunch of time and energy to teach me all about their burning passion language or whatever, that’d be pretty hot. Maybe not JavaScript.. ;)

    Not in a “dick me down immediately” sort of way, ofc, but in a “mmmm sexy brain and sexy willingness to teach complicated stuff” sort of way. And really to me that’s a solid spring-board to “dick me down immediately” territory.

  • What are some gross or disgusting facts about the human body that people aren't aware of?

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  • A fun addition to this fact is that vaginal secretions are made from modified plasma. Like that stuff in your blood.

    So TECHNICALLY women don’t just bleed for their period.

  • NSFW

    Is it common for family members to spy on each other's sexual behavior to find evidence of "degeneracy"? Or did I grow up in hell?

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  • You are 100% allowed to ask for a different therapist, and tell them honestly what about the first one didn’t work for you.

    Think of them as someone you hire, like a construction contractor building a new addition for you. If they do a bad job for your needs, fire them and hire someone else, just like you would if they disregarded your hypothetical missing leg while designing the layout, and gave you lots of stairs. Stairs don’t help you, even if they might be fine or even desired for someone else, just like a therapist who would criticize you or try to gaslight you isn’t helpful to you.

    It might take a few tries, but it’s definitely worth it to find the right person if it’s not the first one.

    My first ever therapist was super religious, and told me that it was better for me to be bored and vaguely unhappy in my relationship than to be alone (I’m a woman so that’s not the first time I’d heard that drivel..). She also told me I need to at least be spiritual, or I’d never get over my depression (incidentally went away when the relationship did.. funny, that..) I was raised without religion, and her comment about my relationship gave me the ick, so I found a different one. And that one was a lot better.

  • How's it been for you?

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  • I got both.

    First one, then the other.

    I’m probably still just as smart but it’s been years since I’ve felt ..sharp. I always feel so behind now. However in that time I’ve shifted from mask my everything always, to not masking at all, pretty much ever. And I’m weird. Not in a showy sort of way like my sibling who figured all attention was good attention (single mother was emotionally cold and negligent, probably un-dx ‘tism), but just.. not being concerned at all with what some rando thinks.

    It’s a good balance I think. I’m still full of information and weird connections between disparate fields/info, but I also learned to give zero fucks what people think (I wasn’t good at fitting in anyway so meh)

  • You're given $20,000 USD (or the equivalent in your local currency) to spend, but anything still left by the end of the day you lose for good. What are you spending it on?

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  • It’s low, but I’m not employed, living on disability and savings, so the sooner I pay it off the better. I’d be much better off not spending my full payment every month for the mortgage.

    In general you are correct though, and I’m not actually in a hurry to pay it off because I don’t have enough to do so. But if I got the bulk of it suddenly for only one day, and could pay the rest from what I already had, absolutely.

  • You're given $20,000 USD (or the equivalent in your local currency) to spend, but anything still left by the end of the day you lose for good. What are you spending it on?

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  • I’d use it to pay my mortgage. That would bring me down to like $6k (bought this place a long time ago on foreclosure, so it was cheap but it’s a piece of shit place, so tradeoff). I’d then just pay the remaining 6k from savings and have zero leftover savings (but that would replenish eventually), and be done with it forever. That would feel amazing and take a lot of stress off my fixed income situation.

  • FFmpeg to Google: Fund Us or Stop Sending Bugs

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  • That was an incredibly interesting read, and I learned a lot! Thank you for posting it!

    It’s genuinely infuriating that so much labor is simply stolen, in so many different ways, from people with a passion for what they do, and turned into profit for some mega corp, with the vast majority funneled to a few people completely unrelated to ~the~ any work.

  • If you don't know where a movie/show/book/game takes place, where do you assume it takes place?

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  • That’s fine, I don’t need you to agree with how I view place settings in works of fiction :)

    But I think if you look closely enough, you’ll find there are incongruities just as a natural consequence of having this stuff translated into a format that can be shared like books and movies/tv. At a certain point you’ll have to suspend disbelief for some reason, even if it’s just to believe that all these people can afford to live where they are with the jobs they have (like friends; I haven’t seen either of your examples so I can’t comment on them). That’s the realm of fantasy worlds for me, and that example is entirely a byproduct of needing space to film. It doesn’t mean there’s magic and unicorns, but it’s like a reflection of reality in a warped mirror; close but wrong. Maybe like a parallel universe, but still not our own.

    Maybe that stuff doesn’t matter to you as far as where stores are set, and that’s totally fine, but it matters to me to keep real and not real separate.

  • If you don't know where a movie/show/book/game takes place, where do you assume it takes place?

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  • It can be set in the real world, but it’s a fictionalized version of the real world. It isn’t striving to be accurate, so it isn’t accurate.

    To me, it doesn’t depend on the genre. If it’s not claiming to be historically or contemporaneously accurate, it’s set in a fantasy world, because aspects of it will not match reality, and that’s what’s important to me in relation to the question you asked.

  • If you don't know where a movie/show/book/game takes place, where do you assume it takes place?

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  • I assume everything is set in a fantasy world unless explicitly told otherwise (eg history or science history where the focus is on accuracy with the understanding that some information needed filling in), because 99.999% of the time this is correct even if it’s supposed to be modeled after a real place or based on real events.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    ButteryMonkey @piefed.social

    How long did it take you to get used to glasses?