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DearOldGrandma @lemmy.world 2y ago

I had some friends in Munich who were brothers, just two or three years apart. They both grew up learning British English, but one eventually participated in an exchange program in Canada while the other participated in one in Australia. When they came back, their English accents were completely different from each other - no matter how hard they tried to sound similar to each other. In the end, everyone though it was unique and kind of fun since one brother would sometimes use slang the other didn't understand.

Point being, OP, is to do what feels natural. Ultimately, it's your voice, but you'll pick up certain things here and there that naturally change your way of speaking over time.

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DearOldGrandma @lemmy.world 2y ago

I'll bite. I had a brother with special needs pass away a year ago next week. He was born with cerebral palsy, was blind, nonverbal, totally dependent on caretakers (myself, my siblings and mother, his nurses) for literally everything since he didn't have functionally-independent motor control. We were told he'd live to 10, and he lived to 29; he was a bundle of joy and loved going out when he could. People would stare and kids would ask questions, but we loved sharing his story and my brother liked when people were curious about it.

But, his health started declining in 2014. He had several close calls, and we told doctors each time to try their best with the circumstances they were given. On more than one occasion, his nurses or our mother would actually be with the doctors during hospital stays to assist with him since he was case they didn't have much experience in and didn't want to make his issues worse. That said, he had a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) since he had a trache, and was brittle enough to die from chest compressions.

I prepped for my brother's death countless times over 8 years. We all did. When he passed, we were so obviously distraught. But we were also relieved, in a way, that he wasn't in pain anymore in the end. We let out our emotions that had been stored for those years, and the grieving process is still continuing. We all put our lives on hold to help him, and he just became our lives; our goal simply was to make him comfortable and let him know he was loved, knowing we couldn't realistically do more. We spent years watching him in pain, watching him gradually lose his fervor and personality.

If you read this far, thank you. Not really sure what else to say, I just want to share this since it's occupied my mind a lot.

TLDR; Preparing for the worst outcomes, coupled with grief, over prolonged periods of time really disrupt your emotions and outlooks. Needless to say, my family became stronger proponents of state-assisted suicide after this experience. It couldn't be granted to my brother, but maybe we can help people in the future that coupd really use it. People understand, but not nearly as many are truly empathetic because they can't be - they've never been through a similar experience. I simply ask that people try to be sympathetic rather than to pass judgement on others.

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DearOldGrandma @lemmy.world 2y ago

I have bad knees, but if you say so

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DearOldGrandma @lemmy.world 2y ago

The crop makes him look fat, too. In the original pictures, he literally looks like a relatively slim middle-aged man - which is exactly what is he when he isn't training for a movie. Too many people forget that very few celebrities are consistently pumping iron to the extent that they have a perfect body throughout the year. Rob McElhenney goes into detail about this topic, I recommend everyone watch it when they get a chance

DearOldGrandma @lemmy.world 2y ago

This type of dialog always reminds me of Toki Wartooth's way of speaking

DearOldGrandma @lemmy.world 2y ago

Facebook users typically skew older, so people that are more likely to have established careers, larger spaces and yards to work on. I feel like a lot of Redditors and Lemmings are young and live with parents or in apartments, and are thus less likely to have a yard to care for.

That being said, anyone with a deck or porch can pot a plant or two to try and help local pollinators.

DearOldGrandma @lemmy.world 2y ago

Shark Navigator Vacuum with a self-cleaning brush. I bought it on Sunday and it's working great so far

/s

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DearOldGrandma @lemmy.world 2y ago

My brother passed away in November - it hit me worse than many losses I've experienced. The calm and waves of sadness is so accurate, but nothing can prepare you for it; I spent years preparing for my brother's death, but it did nothing when it actually happened.