It is for everyone. It's how we work. Outside of maybe certain types of mental illness or disability. It's also very easy to feel like we can carry it without consequence, especially for younger people (I'd say mid-30's and below)
"I can hate someone without it affecting other parts of my life" is just an objectively false statement. I know there is virtually nothing a Lemmy rando can do to change your mind, but one day you'll feel the weight, I promise.
No one is special enough to be able to carry such a core human emotion without consequence.
I'm not trying to argue, but unless there is something about how you process emotions that places you in a vanishingly small percentile, you're gonna pay for it.
It takes emotional bandwidth to carry hate, whether you think about it often or not.
It's not a question of right or wrong, or whether it's deserving or not. You're paying for it as long as you're carrying it, so I would ask if it's still worth it.
I don't know if this counts, but I'd say the Enlightenment. It was a discovery in that we discovered a new way to interpret the world.
I think there is kind of a glass ceiling when you talk about fire, plumbing, electricity and so on. Each one was a necessary stepping stone to get us where we are, but without any one of them, we wouldn't be here.
The Enlightenment gave us a brand new sense of autonomy as a species, which in turn has given us a greater amount of control over "Destiny."
Ah, a nihilist. I know my limits, and virtually nothing I can say will change your mind because it's still closed, and you likely already have an answer to any questions you ask.
However, I'll leave you with this:
You can see it as naive and idealistic, and sure, I get it. But I never claimed happiness is permanent. It's a worldview, and those can and should change. How they change is entirely up to the individual.
You have more control over your path than you realize, and those who benefit from a defeated or complacent populace are terrified of you realizing it.
Well it's never permanent, but I would imagine someone in good health, with strong familial and social connections who lives above the poverty line (person A) is much more likely than someone without one or all of those things (person B) to have a stable feeling of happiness.
Stable, in this context, meaning harder to shake or break.
An example being person A is having a good day and they get a flat tire. The issue is much more likely to be resolved without affecting their overall happiness very much, whereas person B's day might be ruined, which is more likely to have a knock-on effect that can greatly reduce overall happiness.
This is not to say someone without those things wont be happy, just citing a few top level things that, when absent, can make someones life experience more difficult.
As far as under what circumstances would someone experience stable happiness? That's different for everyone because we all have unique challenges in life and how we were raised can directly influence where we are emotionally and what it will take to find happiness.
One of the most sure fire ways to find happiness is in kindness and forgiveness to others, as well as yourself.
Oh yeah, you're right!