My kids are my legacy. Whether that's positive or negative is up to them at this point.
Regardless of that, I used to be terrified of dying. When I was younger because I hadn't experienced or accomplished anything. Heck, George Lucas planned nine Star Wars film's and I couldn't die before I'd seen them all! (In retrospect, maybe that wasn't as important as it seemed at the time.) Getting older it was because my family wasn't ready.
Now I'm in my fifties and my body is already falling apart. My dad and father in law are in better physical shape than me due to back and joint issues. My kids are pretty close to self-sustaining — as much as they'll ever be.
I'm as immortal as someone without big ambitions can be. I'll never have a statue or exhibit in a museum or book written about me, but I'd be pretty happy with a park bench in a scenic spot. I don't want to be buried, but it would be nice to have that as a place anyone who cares to could go and remember me — not some gaudy marble surrounded by death.
What more could I want other than people who love me and remember me for a time? And between now and the end, I've got things to keep me busy. Computer games and learning woodworking. Travel. Continuing to grow as a person. I'm not done living by any means, but I'm okay with dying. I imagine it'll suck at the time, but all things end. Even the universe.
I am monogamous through experience. Early in my relationship with my wife we explored various forms of non-monogamy. I can't swing. I need an emotional connection before I can bring myself to be sexual with another person. I had two girlfriends, and for the most part I was only comfortable having sex with them in the context of a three-way, while my wife is straight. She likes other women's bodies, but doesn't have a desire to go further than touching their boobs or having a BDSM scene.
She only had one person she was interested in sex with. I was supportive but also didn't like waiting at home while she went off. Never went further than a handjob because he wasn't comfortable with the scene.
We gave it a shot and I'm not interested in pursuing non-monogamy. I'd still let her have a shot, but she's into perimenopause and I don't think she is into sex much any more. My dick has always been unreliable and it has gotten even moreso in my fifties.
I do sometimes wish I had someone to go out with because my wife doesn't want to really go anywhere or do anything unless it involves getting drunk and country music. But I'm also kinda autistic and my ability to communicate my mind without hurting someone's feelings is limited. So I just... deal. My life is pretty good even if I dream of something more it's probably not realistic and definitely not worth risking what I have.
I don't know about the game more than I'm reading here, but the quote I was responding to is "two real horses fuck." If that's not what they mean then, fair.
Wait, I was able to see your point all the way through, but what is wrong with two horses fucking? You can see that on 100 farms within 20 minutes of me. That's probably the least weird thing I've heard about this game.
A Lemmy server is like Facebook if there were a hundred other Facebooks people could be on and connect to. There's no reason for you all not to join the same server. People who care enough can move easily.
The only thing I'd say is bad is if you pick the wrong server and it shuts down because then everyone is forced to find a new server.
Let's say you have 800 friends. What service do you recommend to try to convince FB users to move ? This platform would have to have all the same functions, videos, pictures, events, pages, etc.
Mate, I don't believe in hell, but you just described it to a 'T'. Good luck in your search!
I was originally on programming.dev, but they had a database issue that lasted for weeks where lots of content would never appear. Someone suggested .zip and it's been great. There is monthly communication/state-of-the-server posts, and otherwise it just works.
.dev was fixed long ago and I still maintain an account there, but I am invested in .zip at this point.
One thing that is often overlooked in enthusiastic architecture is lines of concern. If you have two APIs, you have two data models. They might be the same today, but they will diverge eventually. A customer in the AR system is different from a customer in the CRM system.
But also, an API is an API. As long as it is a serializes and deserializes on both ends, you are implementing the contract. In this case, author just made their own class, but nonsensically and uselessly tied it to something different. Just ignore the [non-]standard model and create your own DTO. Because in the end if the model is updated and the contract is changed, you aren't going to be following it anyway until you (painfully) update your own.
That said, I understand business often imposes wrong-headed requirements because the wrong people are making the decisions. If there was a hard requirement to use the standard data model, the author failed in any event.
On the other hand, it kinda reads like the DTO is being used within the business logic instead of having a data model separate from the DTO. Don't do that. You have a request model, a response model, a business object, and then often either a persistence model (entity) or upstream service request and response models. Lots of times those can be identical but I've seen a lot of code where tying the entity to a response model creates a hell of a lot of headaches down the road.
By using different classes, you allow them to diverge naturally and only need to update the mapping layer. Don't do that shit because the longer it goes on the more painful it is to separate later.
Well, I've never had a problem with credit cards. Maybe they handle going over your limit differently. Hell, I couldn't even rent a car with a debit card once when I was traveling for business.
I don't know if there's anything in there for you to take away, but I can relate.
You might've missed this part because it was kinda buried there. I'm not telling OP what to do or judging. But I related to the feeling and shared what I did.
I mean... yeah. I'm not going to hang our laundry out, dirty or otherwise, but we have plenty of conflicts and sometimes it's good to know what is worth fighting over and what isn't. This wasn't.
They need to make it big enough to cover folks driving F-350's or something. Idk how much they take. It was generally $75 about 5 years ago. They don't do that with credit cards. Hotels are really awful about that, too.
My wife got me a bartesian for Christmas last year. It makes the worst fucking drinks I've ever had in my life. It takes up space in my kitchen. The drink pods are like $3 each. It takes cleaning and maintenance. I hate everything about it.
I acted happy about it. Privately seethed and ranted. I literally would rather have gotten nothing than wasted money on that. And then I tried several drinks from it before "deciding" I had fun mixing my own drinks, but I still use it for guests and for her drinks that she likes.
I think it's god awful but I realized it made her happy and that is something I treasure. I don't know if there's anything in there for you to take away, but I can relate. Sometimes we just put on a happy face and let our loved ones enjoy giving us something.
Fuck all of that. It's nice to have cash as an option but I'd not do much where it was required because I'd have to run to an ATM to get cash just for that thing, and few things are worth that extra effort for me. And then I'd have to keep track of that cash, which means I'd just foist it onto the next homeless person I see.
Guess I'm not really making a good case against lol.
Not because of emails. And a lot of things prevent the release of actual photos or videos except super redacted. For good reasons, but still it would take witnessing him actually raping someone for them to do anything. And even then you're not going to get everyone.
"Sounds like she's enjoying it."
"He didn't hit her that hard, that was just a love tap."
And of course, "any man would 'give in' surrounded by beautiful women all the time," but only from a woman, because no guy is going to sign his name to saying there's a certain number of women at which point he's helpless but to rape a few.
Trump is a singular idiot, and because he only speaks at about a 3rd grade level, he has been able to politically activate a part of the population that was disinterested in politics because it was above their head.
If you look at voting patterns, there are an astounding number of voters who go to the polls to vote for Trump and leave the booth without voting for anyone else. In Michigan there were hundreds of thousands of fewer votes for Supreme Court justices than for Trump. Because those races are nominally non-partisan, they had no idea who to vote for. The liberal candidates both won handily while Trump took the state. Midterms have gone against Republicans and I think it's because Trump isn't on the ballot.
I think if we can get Trump out of office, there is a good chance America will return to normalcy, albeit with a greater awareness of the current of fascism that bubbles before the surface.
I was, too. We're more than just that, or we can be if we find a way.