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  • Please listen to: × Kill James Bond (very funny leftist film critique)

    × The worst of all possible worlds (funny absurdist pop culture reviews)

    × worlds beyond number (DnD live play podcast)

  • hey I really appreciate the insight and the explanation! you made me understand that concern and helped me learn :) thanks!

  • What's the danger there? (Just curious)

  • Maybe we don't care about right-wing comments?

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  • Talk to them and react to their communication.

    The biggest turn-on for any person is being taken serious and actively seeking consent.

    That's it. That's the general advice.

  • I mean you have wikihow but it's not really high-quality all the way through. There doesn't exist one guide. All of these topics are highly debatable, have different opinions with far different perspectives. Some things you just have to figure out yourself with the help given to you. Means: get as much info as possible, compare, talk to others, reflect on your own experience and expectations.

    There is no "one better way" to do these common tasks. And many companies spend an insane amount of money to spread (mis)information on how best to eat, exercise, get to work, clean, dress, wash.... So I don't believe there's "objectively" one way to do anything. Find your way.

  • You're just talking to be correct? Fine, you're right. Have a peaceful life

  • That's beside the point. If you only care about your hygiene because of others, you're neglecting your own comfort. I'm not wearing deodorant, for example, because I don't want to. I'm still not smelly in the negative sense (yes I asked), because I take showers regularly - and I take showers regularly because I care about my own body

  • I don't agree in the slightest. Because if you care, you won't do that probably. Self care is not about others, but about yourself, hence "self". If you only bathe, are gentle, dress... because of others, maybe you have different issues

  • "Stop worrying what other people think" is bad advice anyway. It's not like that's a possibility for people with anxiety. Give concrete advice: self affirmation, reflective writing, journaling positive feedback....

  • not sure? I got one superlike to use for free a week. is that a regional thing? i have never paid for OkC in my life.

  • I'm holding the torch for OkCupid. I've met my SOs there. Many queer folk, leftists, likes work reasonably well and you even get free "superlikes" once a week. Messages are free, likes are free.

  • Nah, I'm an okay person. Sure I do bad things. I make mistakes and have problematic behaviour patterns from time to time. But I am working on it. That's what makes a "good" or "bad" person. It's almost never about what you do but mostly about intent and willingness to learn

  • Oh man. So many and so much. Most of the "comedy" from the 80s, 90s, early 2000s is unwatchable. Older movies are sometimes straight up disgusting. I think it's a sign for how we grow as a society to be more aware of the sexism, racism and other forms of disrespect that has been sold as comedy or just as "normal". I consume much more consciously and through a more meta lense. For reference: I'm turning 40 this year

  • Or happiness, or desire, or fun, or the taste of fresh fruit, or beauty

  • I know how you feel. Don't worry. I've been there, I will be there again. I take meds to not feel this way all the time.

    Here's something trippy: if , you disappeared EVERYTHING would change FOR YOU. The world as you know it would cease to exist. All options all routes ...gone.

    Am I important for the world? I am the most important person in MY world, because without me, it wouldn't exist.

  • Can you get a standing desk? Or one of those sitting balls?

  • No it's not. I'm going to be 40 in a few months. A job with lots of movement helps me a lot. Then I go dancing once a week. I need to do more. But I feel fine, I'm not fat and I can still play with the kids

  • I'm sad that you were made to think this way. That you don't consider yourself important enough to care about yourself. You never need to "look good for others". Fuck that BS. I'm going to be 40 this year. These last few years I've been really experimenting with my looks. Never standing still, never stopping. You're not a painting to be put in a frame and stand still. You're a living, feeling being. Take care

  • Ever considered hand grinding? The comanante is the high-end for that. But James Hoffman just made a video about a decent 35$ hand-grinder. Try to get metal burrs.