your local idiot with a guitar
If you're occupying land in so-called "Australia"
If you eat food
And if you live on Earth
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Sasha [They/Them] @lemmy.blahaj.zone 3w ago

None in particular, I want my US friends to be able to escape persecution and be here where they're safe

4w ago

What do I need to read to get where you're coming from?

Sasha [They/Them] @lemmy.blahaj.zone 4w ago

The anarchist-faq will get you most of the way there, and the K-On manga will fill in the gaps.

4w ago

Do trans people like to be noticed?

Sasha [They/Them] @lemmy.blahaj.zone 4w ago

It's always going to be a personal preference kind of thing. Personally I don't really care much about "passing" and I'm usually completely okay being outwardly trans, unless it's being used to harass/bully.

I had a weird experience the other day when getting an ultrasound where I told the tech I was obviously on HRT which she immediately denied. I get she was trying to be supportive, but it kinda just made me feel worse because of how awkward it was lol.

1mo ago

Do you moisturize after a shower & if you do what do you use?

Sasha [They/Them] @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1mo ago

I love this stuff, I always put it on my face. It's just enough to stop feeling like my skin is as dry as paper and it's not oily, it feels more watery than anything. I switched to it years ago, use it after every shower and now my skin is so nice, presumably just because I'm not leaving my face all dried out, I doubt there's anything special about this stuff.

That said, I do also use a very gentle sorbolene body wash and hand soap because my skin was too fragile for normal soap. If I don't, I tend to get lots of sores on my fingers.

2mo ago

When does hating religious people start to make you a bigot.

A favourite phrase of mine that comes up in so many different areas of life is: "soft on people, hard on structures." Individuals tend to be pretty good, genuine and caring people.

It's much like how an atheist might be a great person, but the new atheist movement became a festering cesspool of anti-feminist right wing bigotry. Having a religion doesn't change much really, shit people are universal.

2mo ago

What's an uplifting fact that might counter the doom of our current reality?

It's my HRT birthday today, two years now and it's really sunny and warm. It's a nice day :3

2mo ago

Special education ruined my relationship with my mom

I didn't have an experience like this growing up, my family didn't realise we were all autistic until I pointed it out earlier this year, and even then they weren't really accepting of it lol.

Imo support has to include listening to what you want, otherwise it's just controlling. Regardless of whatever support you have had, you've gained skills through your own efforts, no one can just give them to you. You deserve to feel good about that.

Handling family can suck, especially when they treat you like you've described, but things get easier when you have space away from them and live your own life. Them pushing you has helped you grow, I had to learn to push myself, which is a skill in its own right but it seems like you're already doing it. Independence is hard to achieve and I think you're doing a great job so far, keep it up.

2mo ago

How do people in cities have fun without spending money at every turn?

I'm getting replies in my inbox but I can't view post comments lol, thankyou!

2mo ago

How do people in cities have fun without spending money at every turn?

I'm not poor but most of my fun stuff is free, hanging out at parks (picnics with friends or just relaxing with a book or something), walking/cycling trails, free or pay as you feel shows and weekly food not bombs community dinners.

Nothing wrong with a 1 bedroom apartment tbh, and I don't understand why not living in a house means you can't buy and own things lol. I've got loads of stuff I can do here if I don't want to go out, I've even got plenty of private outdoor space. If I didn't have so much stuff keeping me busy I could very easily stay in my apartment for weeks at a time, only really leaving to get groceries, I've never gone mad from it.

Tbh I find this life is significantly cheaper given I don't have as much maintenance as a house, and I don't need to pay the absurdly high costs associated with a car.

Edit: looks like jerboa broke for me so I've got no clue if this posted or what anyone else is saying lol

2mo ago

me_irl

I'm glad Kirk is gone, I'll never not be happy about that, I think it's objectively good. But I think it's still important to recognise that it's very shitty that he did end up a miserable little cunt who was better off dead.

Mostly though, I'm just worried about how celebrating death makes it seem like a virtue we'd want or accept in a new society. Revolution at a necessary cost, don't get me wrong, but we shouldn't celebrate the cost itself. I think it's totally okay to celebrate the end result, "the problem of Charlie Kirk is now solved" or something lol, but the method was both objectively awful and necessary.

Murder is a tool as all violence is, but we should it treat as what it is: a horrible one we're forced to use to attain liberation and thus ultimately a form of violence inflicted upon us. After a revolution, I think it's best left behind in this shitty fucking world we all hate.

Regardless, get fucked Kirk, good riddance and rest in piss you slimey little cunt.

3mo ago

why do you people delete your posts?

I deleted one once because I complained about someone by name, hoping someone else would have experience with them and could offer better advice.

I think it would have been relatively easy for them to find that post, which I didn't want to risk given that they could cause me harm by denying their services. It wouldn't have been hard to work out who I was given the context I provided.

3mo ago

Is at-home laser/electrolysis worth it? Does it work?

It does the same thing as laser, it kills the follicle using a burst of heat. Even laser is in some sense temporary and you'll have regrowth, but in either case that process takes months and it's very gradual, it's why laser clinics say you need to perform maintenance.

I stopped doing IPL for nearly year and I can count the numbers of chest hairs that came back on my hands. I had a similar experience when COVID lockdowns interrupted my facial laser sessions for a couple of months, except that grew back faster. I think a large part of it is related to growth phases though, as in you've gotta kill the follicle at the right time for it to stay dead or something, I'm no expert.

3mo ago

Is at-home laser/electrolysis worth it? Does it work?

At home IPL absolutely works, it's definitely better for dark hair on light skin, I've had pretty good results. Still struggling with facial hair, but so did professional laser. I've gotten rid of almost all my body hair with my little IPL machine. It's slower, but you can also do it more frequently so it isn't too bad. It's also an option for maintenance once you've done laser rather than going back every 6 months or whatever they recommend. (Also IPL doesn't hurt)

At home electrolysis is apparently a scam according to a friend of mine :/

3mo ago

The success of other people transitioning seems to be quite a trigger for my dysphoria

What you're experiencing is relatively common in my experience. Transitioning sucks, even with support. It's slow, expensive, often disappointing and it takes an absurd amount of both bravery and energy to live genuinely. You're doing great.

I've always struggled with transition timelines, especially before I started transitioning. Thinking about it now, I'm actually surprised that I don't find they trigger dysphoria any more. Certainly still jealousy, but it makes me happy to see people enjoying life. I'm not really happy with the physical changes I've made so far, it's been slow and subtle and I can't really work out how to stop boy moding, but I like myself now even if I still want to much more.

It's too bad that transition timelines often focus on meeting stereotypical beauty standards, because imo transition is about so much more than that. I get to talk to a lot of people at different stages, and the truly inspiring thing is how much happier people become. It's definitely a fight, but it's one you can win even if it's in ways you might not expect. I'm sorry it's so damn hard and I wish it was possible to ease the burden.

Celebrate your wins as they come, you're working hard as hell and deserve to feel good about every step forward.

3mo ago

What in your country/area is totally normal but visitors get excited for?

The possums even more so I'd say, especially in the cities.

I'm actually not sure I've ever seen a wild platypus, and I haven't seen a wombat since I was very young, but I don't think I've ever lived in an area with them. Kangaroos were everywhere growing up in the bush though, in the backyard, school car park, sharp bend around a dark corner...

3mo ago

What TV Show or Movie Drinking Game would kill the most people with alcohol poisoning?

Snakes on a plane, you take a drink every time there's a snake on a plane. (I can't remember where I'm stealing this from)

3mo ago

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Yup, getting skills is just worthwhile pain. It's been hard trying to convince some of the younger tech interested people I know to put in the effort instead of going down the AI route, but I know exactly where that'll lead them. You don't get good at this stuff by succeeding, it's the endless failure.

4mo ago

Are there any examples of a religion giving scientific knowledge that could not have been known to people at the time?