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Seigest

@ Seigest @lemmy.ca

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  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?

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  • Good to know. My friends mention the same things though I don't have that problem as often these days but I wonder if this is the common thing that nerodivergent people face and the cause of sleep issues.

    Fyi routine and meditation helped with me, the Finch app is great for keeping me on track.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?

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  • I'm hoping that will be the case this time. The one I had was the best one available given my insurance policy at the time. I'm hoping there is more options then what was available 10 years ago.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?

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  • Interesting, I know that can have an effect on migraines as well. I should ask my doctors about that.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?

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  • My friends have their reasons, but most of them are either unemployed or working part-time. I was in a similar situation when I was younger.

    Now that I’m working full-time in a 9-to-5 kind of job, I’ve realized I just can’t do what I used to. I try to resist taking naps, but sometimes the urge to sleep comes on so suddenly and strongly that fighting it actually gives me migraines and causes mental distress. I think that’s the narcolepsy at play.

  • Do all of us neurodiverse folks have sleep issues?

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  • May I ask what kind of sleep issues? Have your doctor said anything like apnea, or narcolepsy, or did they just say it's a mental health thing?

  • [vent] My annual feeling of extreme loneliness due to lack of romantic relationships and my absolute hopelessness of getting one have begun

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  • Not sure if this will help but here's my take.

    I'm 38 and ace, and I was in a very similar place. Over time, my close friends found their partners, and I ended up feeling even more alone.

    I believed I had to earn a healthy relationship. I thought I needed to get physically fit, pay off my debt, and become "worthy" enough. Thankfully, I found a good therapist who helped me step away from that mindset. Personal goals are valuable, but the truth was that I would probably never feel good enough if I kept tying my worth to achievements.

    At the same time, I was in an aro-ace relationship with someone who was financially abusing me. That situation was a major factor holding me back.

    In the end, the root of many of my struggles was self-hate. It took about a year of therapy to start correcting that. I’m still working on self-compassion, as well as my financial and physical well-being. But I’m now dating someone in a similar situation, and I’m genuinely happy.

    So if you’re open to advice, here’s mine: focus on building self-compassion. You deserve happiness. You deserve to be loved.

  • Avocado toast rule

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  • For free? I doubt it.

  • I got a bunny

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  • Honestly, I'd have so many more if I could afford them.i got some for my friends as well ADHD bunny, ADHD bat, anxiety bunny. They're all great.

  • Tips and Tricks Sunday.

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  • I've been using the Finch app with a few of my friends for about a year now. It's kind of a virtual pet that grows as you meet your daily goals. Mine are small things like brushing my teeth twice a day, taking meds, going outside, lifting heavy things, ext

    It also has a lot of built in activities for journaling and breathing exercises.

    You can encourage and motivate your friends with it. It doesn't show you their goals or personal info. It's a great way to express gratitude or just let them know I am thinking about them.

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    Anyone using LLM's to help with social skills?

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  • What's an LLM?

  • So I'm the Mod Now.

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  • Good luck. Let us as a community know how we can help you.

  • Special ed kids, what's it like?

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  • I was in elementary in Canada early 90's. My school was weird. There's a large Mennonite community in the area where I grew up so a large percentage (more than 50%) of the kids in this school were Mennonite. For those unfamiliar, these are similar to Amish. Such farmers with strong religious views, most of them were "old order" meaning they grew up in homes with little to no electricity. They also finish school at age 12 regardless of progress. This meant that they were exempt from a lot of the classes my tiny public school had to offer. No French, computing, or Sex Ed. A lot of them were also in special Ed. I'm not going to sugar coat this. It's forbidden from them to marry outside of their culture and only like 4 families came to the area. So there's a lot of disabilities as a result of inbreeding with that community.

    All this to say that my school had absolutely no clue how to deal with my undiagnosed autism. But they seemed to have decent funding due to the much higher needs.

    I was in special Ed via French exemption status. This means I never learned french. I'd instead be placed in a room with all the Mennonite kids often in a corner trying to read. Eventually I was put into some kind of program. A neurologist should come by and do experiments on me. Nothing weird, just testing my fine motor skills. They (falsely) diagnosed me with "elementary tremors" a pediatric doctor upped this to a "retardation caused by mild down syndrome" (extremely wrong) after years of that nonsense they decided to use this crazy new fangled technology to give me a leg up with writing. I was given a Macintosh computer. I had a desk with tiny wheels and my 4th grade self had to wheel this from class to class (including "portables"). Of course this was pretty obsolete tech even for its time. My parents got me an Alpha Smart which was way better. By 6th grade I had a personal support worker to help get me caught up. I failed grades 3-6 but was 'placed' into the next grade anyway and never made to repeat anything.

    Highschool was very different, no Mennonite, so way less funding. It was still a French exemption class but there were only about 5 other students in the class. It seemed to be less about education, or assessment of my condition. It was some watching videos and doing some analysis. It was mostly just a time to catch up on homework. Often there wasn't even a teacher present.

  • Secret to management rule

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  • We really need a modern remake of this.

  • Tips to keep feet warm?

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  • Honestly invest in good slippers. I got these before COVID and they are hands down one of the best investments ever. since I work from home I just wear them all day. Do they make me look like a geezer, yes. But my feet are cozy.

  • Whould everyone doing nothing be a viable option?

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  • Ah perhaps I'm not used too that where I am. I appreciate unions truly, and belive we need more. But the ones I've been in have been nearly as corrupt as the politicians. Often run by the retired and wealthy making decisions on behalf of those still working. Often bad ones.

  • Whould everyone doing nothing be a viable option?

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  • That whould typically involve unions. No need for them here though.

    Unions are great for a lot of things but they'd be less inclined to help on this as they, don't all support the same parties, and probably dont want their workers to violate any contracts as it would damage future negotiations.

    I think isn't a matter of labour and would be stonger without unions. It needs to be from the people.

  • Game composer Nobuo Uematsu will retire after Fantasian's console launch

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  • How many times has this man retired now? I hope he takes good care of himself though. Man wrote the sound track to many of our lives.

  • Nintendo's latest product, "alarmo"

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  • Between this and Pokémon sleep I'm questioning why Nintendo needs to watch us sleep.

  • Team earth is best

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  • Still shocked they kicked out Pluto over a doping scandal.

  • Jeff's magic money machine

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  • Give it all away anyway. Screw that genie, wealth hoarding jerk. At worst he kills you and you leave a saintly legacy.