If you think they are the same then you are part of the problem
No, you..
(they aren't the same, a state's monopoly on violence, which they inflict on their own, and other, citizens with impunity, and which you are not only consenting to, but defending, is infinitely worse)
Lol, authoritarians aren't left wing (and if you think tankies aren't manipulated by just as large a government operation, you're being wilfully ignorant. It coming from a non-American government doesn't make it any better)
I feel like the two groups are close to a circle in a Venn diagram - privileged people there to make it about themselves (in the form of self aggrandization and claiming non-existent victimhood and marginalisation) rather than about the marginalised people they claim to support (and only do superficially and entirely conditionally).
That sucks. It's bigotry and then gaslighting, and then on top of it all we're somehow to blame for them being that way because we're not eternally grateful and fawn all over them for reluctantly giving us the barest of bare minimum decency and respect, and therefor leave them no choice (in their eyes of course).
Thank you so much for diving in to the cesspit, I knew there would be some push back, there always is, but I didn't think it'd get this bad (and I have a lot of these people blocked already, so I can only imagine, because I'm not going to look, not today satan!). Sorry you have to spend your time dealing with the mess! 😩
I am not interested in leading anyone, and my life, and the lives of marginalised people in general aren't a fucking educational opportunity. We are not obligated to invest endless time and energy, which we are already deprived of due to having to fight just to exist, to earn that right to exist from those more privileged than us.
If they genuinely want to be good allies, literally all they have to do is open a search engine and start looking through the endless information that already exists out there and start from there, instead of demanding it be spoon fed directly too them by the people directly impacted (and therefore fatigued), especially after they've shown zero initiative or interests in educating themselves.
Oh yeah, because your support of marginalised people is exactly like our gender, or any other immutable characteristic we get oppressed and even murdered for, well done!!! We should have realised all along - it's the privileged people who get to look at our oppression from the side line and decide whether to support our right to exist depending on how nice we were to them, who are the real victims here!!! (heavy fucking /s)
What's next, you gonna come out with your own "blue lives matter" - "ally lives matter"??
Fucking pathetic, but hey, thanks for adding yet another example of exactly the kind of person this post is talking about.
You are not an ally to anyone but your own fragile little ego,
"I have a marginalised sister who I want to support, but a generalised post on the internet that I took as a personal attack (if the shoe fits ¯(ツ)/¯ ) hurt my feelings by not prioritising them above her oppression and the oppression of those like her, and didn't make sure to centre me and praise me for my minimal empathy every step of the way, so now I'm not gonna! I'M tHe rEaL vIctiM hEre! sToP oPprEsSiNg mE!!!11" 🙄
You self identified allies just can't fucking help but out yourselves, can you?
This isn't about purity, but you tell yourself whatever you need to to avoid engaging in the mild discomfort of unlearning and challenging your privilege, existing bias, and the status quo, I guess.. ¯(ツ)/¯
Step 1: learn how to do your own work instead of expecting (or even demanding) marginalised people expend our time, energy, and emotional labour doing it for you.
Centring yourself, talking over, and refusing to listen to the marginalised people whose side you claim to be on - the self identified ally personified!
The only reason grown ass men date children (laws on the age of consent were written by those same grown ass men, they don't dictate reality) is so they can have someone who hasn't yet learned how to recognise red flags to coerce and control. You don't need to actively encourage him to be sending him the message that you, at the very least, don't disapprove.
It's up to you to decide how comfortable you are with sending him that message, and act accordingly.
If someone feels like this post (or any other boundary set by the people they claim to want to support) is keeping them from being an ally, they never were one in the first place.
I can't think of one off hand, but yours (E: and several of the replies) made me lol, thanks 😂