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SouthernLight

@ SouthernLight @lemmy.ml

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  • Is the 'stuck' economy a global phenomenon? Americans share frustrations about not being able to get ahead despite education - is this a universal experience?

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  • Not being coy: can you help me understand the word choice of "opportune"?

    I've recently become fascinated by history and the underpinned stories that really get to the answers to the WHY questions.

  • How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?

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  • I logically know this, but I just can't seem to get past it. Hence the question as the title.

  • How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?

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  • I've invested quite heavily in therapy, both individual and group in the past couple of years.

  • How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?

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  • One of the biggest things that I've come to realize is that despite my PO parents saying I was their priority they failed to move towards me when I needed them most. It's their lack of attunement that hurts.

  • How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?

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  • Yep. Distance is different than cutting him off. I have a ton of guilt. We recently had our first child and he hasn't met his grandchild.

  • How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?

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  • Yep, been doing that for a few years.

  • How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?

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  • It's not. I promise. I recently made this account because my others were too identifying of me.

  • How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?

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  • Thanks for your empathy and understanding.

    I try to talk about this in therapy but I still seem stuck. I wake up in the middle of the night angry, sad, and crying.

    Even trying to set boundaries and communicate them to him leads me to rage and sadness. For years I didn't recognize that when I've spent any time with him it usually takes several days to come back to being fully regulated. I could probably recover faster now that I've been to therapy, but I'm frozen in fear that he'll try to use his wealth to try to control me and the decisions I make for my family.

  • How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?

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  • Thanks for sharing your story.

    Why would you want to fix it if he constantly pushes your boundaries purposely?

    Because he's my father and, naturally, I want a relationship where he will be a part of my life.

    If he didn't contact you on your wedding, was he invited?

    Yes, he was invited.

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    SouthernLight @lemmy.ml

    Is the 'stuck' economy a global phenomenon? Americans share frustrations about not being able to get ahead despite education - is this a universal experience?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    SouthernLight @lemmy.ml

    How can I let go of the anger and sadness towards my father?