The only thing I'd temper this with is that MLs are literally not a problem beyond terminally online spaces, particularly the sectarians you mention.
Like yeah they can suck but I'm much more afraid of Proud Boys and the liberals that enable them.
Ultimately I agree with you 100 percent it's just an exhausting thing to always have to be like "yeah sure fuck tankies I guess" when discussing matters of actual life and death.
This is kind of a tangent but I've always had mixed feelings about his essay about not being gay in a time where there were a ton of rumors around the topic, which relates I think to his brand of masculinity.
Essentially his point was that if he was gay he would be the most out and loud person about it so that others could feel safe too do the same, and it always stuck me as an easy thing to say.
But now that I'm out I find it kinda inspiring since I DO get to be that out and loud queer and I would lie if I said his words didn't inspire that.
I was present at several of the protests in Portland that supposedly burnt down the city.
In all cases they were pretty mild until the police escalated. Like people were rightfully pissed but they were largely marches and chants until driven into a corner by riot cops who were all too ready to blanket downtown in tear gas and rubber bullets
There were elements that would go to the justice center and shake the fence and scream at the cops but nothing that justified the national guard showing up. Looting and such always occurred in the chaos ensuing after an extreme attempt to clamp down on peaceful protest.
That's fair. It's well known in America as it's a big event for a big American holiday that's primarily watched by older, less online people and bored kids at a family members house which is why I bought it up. Local news was talking about the whole phenomenon because if it. But out of that American context you're right that it wouldn't be as meaningful.
I understand the breakdown but the brainworms are still really present even in this comment. So I'm gonna rant a little.
The issue "hon culture" and the term "hon" in general is that it others non passing trans women.
TTTT has such a huge self hating obsession with non passing, that they elevate it and create something that doesn't really exist outside their twisted world view.
The irony is that many of them do pass, they just have a horriblly mysogynistic view of women that they directed inwardly at themselves. Cis women don't really get to chose the woman they get to be either and many if not most would fail those standards.
The term toxic positivity and hugboxing is also largely misunderstood. Everytime I've seen it it's just TTTT people complaining that they can't spread their bile, or that they didn't get the masochistic hit of self hatred. People being overly supportive is not nearly as toxic as the alternative.
I understand why you feel the way you do. I'm probably one of those toxicly positive people you are taking about, but I still feel the same kind of dysphoria and self hatred too.
But I also know I don't have to let that same hated control me or my actions. And I know I would never direct it towards or even enable it in my trans siblings.
The only thing I'd temper this with is that MLs are literally not a problem beyond terminally online spaces, particularly the sectarians you mention.
Like yeah they can suck but I'm much more afraid of Proud Boys and the liberals that enable them.
Ultimately I agree with you 100 percent it's just an exhausting thing to always have to be like "yeah sure fuck tankies I guess" when discussing matters of actual life and death.