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celeste

@ celeste @kbin.earth

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  • If I shut off the internet how many days do you think it would take before people lose their minds?

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  • I wonder how many people would die before pharmacists and doctors adjust.

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  • Report and if mods and admins ignore it and it keeps happening, go into a lighter version of "I'm being stalked" mode and start a new account with no reference to the old one. They "win" and you move on with your life.

  • Why are so many people role playing as animals?

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  • You mean as animals, instead of humans with animal features? I don't know what specifically you're talking about, but usually it springs from a desire to play with traits the animals are assumed to have. The less they're playing at being a human with fur or echolocation or whatever, the more it's about a desire to disconnect from human responsibilities and worries.

    Some people who have been abused in a way that resembles how humans treat animals (assumption of stupidity, obedience required with the assumption you're incapable of understanding why you need to do things, etc) will play at it when they're free of it as a way to process the shitty way they were treated in a way they can control.

    But it mostly seems to stem from a desire to not think about human concerns for a while, and just exist in your body as we assume animals do.

  • Is there an anti- sleep-paralysis device?

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  • Not that I know of. When I had sleep paralysis every night it was because I was sleeping on my back under a heated blanket on a futon. Changing that reduced the sleep paralysis. Finding your personal triggers is helpful. I mostly get it these days if I'm abruptly removedn up and then fall immediately back to sleep. Try messing with how you're sleeping, or look up suggestions on how to break out of it? On the rare occasion I still get it, I know how to break out because of that unfortunate period of time when I got to experiment every night.

    I wonder if an alarm like you're suggesting would just make regular alarm noises. That'd probably work. The one time an episode itself made me break out of it, I thought I heard my mother screaming in the kitchen, in a way that made me think she'd chopped off a finger. I immediately leapt out of bed and ran there, like, "are you okay???" thinking she'd be bleeding out. She looked at me and asked the same question, since she'd been minding her own business and suddenly i yelled and ran in. Alarm that makes a blood curdling scream, anyone?

  • What are the demands of the No Kings protests? What's the plan if they win?

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  • The purpose is for previously comfortable people to get used to taking action to oppose fascism. It's mostly a large visible Fuck You Trump party, but you meet people there. You got up, you broke your routine, you were in line at Michaels with other people who were also buying posterboard and markers. They're in your community. You aren't surrounded by them - they are surrounded by us. And, huh. There are more of us here then there are cops in town. Interesting.

    At events, those previously comfy people make connections and when they say "i wish i was doing more" someone else can say "some of us are going to the home depot on monday to interfere with ICE." or even just "there's a dinner after this why don't you come too?"

    Then it feels less weird to get up and do something next week. There are plenty of people who will just have the fuck you party and not do anything else, but there are also plenty who will do more.

    Its purpose is to create momentum. That's how I see events like this. Most people don't have a quick on switch for taking big actions. You practice things and talk about things first.

    If you're on bsky, @drlisacorrigan has a thread that discusses the theory behind events like this. It starts:

    In social movement studies, we talk about how marches and protests expand the threshold of acceptable risk so that people take more and bigger social risks IN PUBLIC, EN MASSE. This is extremely important for the bourgeois white folks holding signs and building social rapport.

    I think you have to be logged in to read her thread, but I believe what she says is the theory behind why nokings was created. On their page, you find a ton of other groups that are partnering - real world groups that do real things - and they also have weekly suggestions of actions to take.

    So the demands of the protest, imo, are for comfortable people to get up, figure out who's around them and with them, and take action or join one of the partnering organizations that fit their interests and skillset. Since the problem can't be solved with one single action, like impeachment, there needs to be labor involved in every aspect.

    Another demand, much catchier, is that we not have kings in the United States.

  • Americans, what do typically have for breakfast?

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  • bagel and cream cheese, with coffee.

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    Am I stuck because of the sunk-cost fallacy?

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  • Save it for a while in case you ever need to leave your boyfriend suddenly. Or there's an emergency. They're paying you so you don't need to work. Once you're working, give it back and come clean then. If you aren't working, you really don't want to get rid of safety money.

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  • My roommate had this happen. He got it again, but less bad, when he got a booster. I think it initially took a couple weeks to go away, but I might not remember correctly. I think some people are inclined to have this happen.

  • What do ambulances do with patients cars?

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  • Someone I know felt she was having a heart attack, pulled over, and called 911. I think that's the sort of scenario this is about.

  • You gotta rizz 'em

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  • You need two and you have to tie them together to even cover anything

  • Psychonauts, 3D platformer with crazy creativity

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  • Loved this game back in the day. I never finished it because one level made me sick, but it was so fun I really regretted not playing all of it.

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  • If I eat something that has gone bad and I get food poisoning, I might be unable to eat that food for a long time afterwards. Even if I really want to and miss it and am super careful to make sure it's safe. I might feel mildly sick even just from the smell of it. My body is just trying to protect me, and there's nothing inherently wrong with that food, but it sucks. Given time, and in some cases careful cautious introduction, I might be able to get it down again. Had this experience with a pot pie once, and it took a couple years to eat them again, even when I looked at the box and thought I wanted it for dinner.

    With people, the reintroduction process feels unfair. It is unfair. You aren't the same person who hurt her, but unfortunately you're introducing similar feelings or experiences. She wants to kiss people again, she liked kissing people in the past, and she wants to kiss you specifically, when she considers you. But when the moment arrives, or she thinks about the moment arriving in reality, her body goes DANGER DANGER because one time she kissed someone and a horrible thing happened.

    It's unfair to her, too. This is an unbelievably shitty thing to have to work through. She might even desperately want a relationship with someone kind, like I'm sure you are, but if she isn't able to know how long it will be until you can have the physical relationship you both want, it makes sense that she'd step back from you. This could take years to resolve, or it might never resolve. She might be being kind to you by turning you down, or she might be being selfish because she doesn't think she can handle navigating someone else's feelings while hers are so intense. It's fine if her reason is either, or both.

    So, yeah, what she's describing sounds pretty normal for someone with trauma. I hope life treats you both with more kindness and you meet someone who can return your feelings, and she figures out a treatment that helps her find peace.

  • Is there an increasing trend in the fear of germs/contamination (Mysophobia/Germophobia) ever since Covid-19, or is it just me?

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  • I can't find any studies on this. I don't really trust personal perception for this one, and I'm also curious.

  • Specifically woman fans, what is it about yaoi that you like (if you are a yaoi fan)?

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  • Never sure how to answer this one, since I'm bi and like f/f as well. I tend to like particular dynamics in romance, and men are more likely to be depicted having some of them. There are some other dynamics women are more likely to be depicted having with each other, and when I'm in the mood for those stories I read more f/f.

  • Weekly Recommendations Thread: What are you playing this week?

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  • Coral Island! It's been out a while but they had a major update recently. My farming/crafting life sim stretch continues.

  • Graham Linehan ‘relentlessly’ posted abuse about trans teenager, court told

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  • “He said ‘go away groomer’, ‘go away you disgusting incel’. He called her a ‘sissy porn-watching scumbag’ … He deliberately whacked the phone out of Ms Brooks’s hand.”

    A 57 year old talking about the porn habits of a teen and then knocking a recording device from her hand.

  • Is a monocle uncomfortable to wear?

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  • It's interesting to hear from someone who used something like it. I never even thought about how much sweat would be a problem.

  • Should I feel bad that my abusers are suffering?

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  • You never have to feel a particular way. If anyone says you have to feel bad, or that you shouldn't feel bad if you do, they're wrong. Not how feelings work. Some people feel better knowing that their abusers are shit because their folks are shit, and it had very little to do with you, other than your convenience as a victim when they wanted to hurt someone. But what you feel just is.

    I try to just look at what I'm feeling, and accept it, without judgement. Don't turn away, but don't dwell. It makes it easier to decide reasonable action later. Not detached from emotion (impossible) but understanding it as a part and not the entirety of behavior, where right and wrong start to come into play.

  • What is the first electronic device kids get these days? (Desktop, Laptop, Tablet, Phone, Game consoles?)

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  • I was going to answer and then realized that the last kid I would've watched when they got their first electronics is now 13. Time....is marching on....