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  • neoprulenouns

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  • no, the bad thing is doubling down on "nah, you get the pronouns i pick for you" after being informed. this user sticking their fingers in their ears and crying about ignorance is a red herring argument to set up some DARVO shit.

  • Read Slowly Rule

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  • every new word sounds silly at first, that's why every generation makes fun of the kids' slang. hell, remember when "yeet" was new? it sounded so silly and stupid, but it's just another part of the lexicon now.

  • neoprulenouns

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  • hey fam i was raised as a white dude in a still-segregated pocket of the US, i totally understand about culture giving us biases and bigotries and having to recognize and contend with that. deprogramming isn't easy and i respect you for having come this far.

    i'd say that the very idea that anyone else has a say in who you are is antithetical to the aims of the queer rights movement because we struggle to live authentically in accordance with who know we are in spite of who and what society tells us we are or must be. i am a trans woman, it is a part of who and what i am and always has been and no amount of 'disagreement' from anyone (including myself, i was in denial for decades) can ever change that. moreover it is a scientific fact that it is important to my mental health that this immutable internal identity is acknowledged and accepted by those around me regardless of whether i put on a satisfactory display of arbitrary gender tropes. i did not wake up one day and decide this for myself, it simply is and i have no choice but to abide what is true, or go back to torturing myself living what i know is a lie.

    i don't expect cis people to get my identity. how even could they? but i don't need them to. what i need, again not "i want" but what the facts of human psychology dictate that i need in order to be mentally healthy, is for people to accept that my identity is what it is and go along with it. does it seem ridiculous to me? hell, i seem ridiculous to a lot of people!

    i don't get drag's gender either. i don't get grail's. i have thoughts and opinions, who wouldn't? but that's not relevant. whether i get it isn't relevant. what i think or opine about it isn't relevant. the bar isn't getting it, the bar is accept people. the bar is not scrutinizing and making judgment calls about what you think should or shouldn't be a valid gender or pronoun, or worse spinning a narrative where this person doesn't really deserve to have their identity acknowledged.

    this whole thing boils down to whether people are willing to respect someone's purported identity even if it seems silly to them, and that's the absolute core of trans rights.

  • neoprulenouns

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  • Meanwhile, coming out the other side of your mouth:

    You insist on dictating what is a valid thing to want to be called, and and outright proclaim your intent to disrespect anyone outside of that, literally because you don't care enough. While over here justifying yourself by finding reasons they're bad or irrational people, or why you personally don't feel their gender is valid, and ultimately hiding behind your own feelings about your own gender as if it should your shitty bigoted take more palatable. Adding a third option doesn't make you more tolerant when you're still insisting everyone keep their identities in your comfort zone.

  • rules

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  • the real paradox of tolerance is how quickly "tolerant" people fall back into gender essentialism rhetoric the moment they're presented with anything outside of their comfort zone.

  • neoprulenouns

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  • It's very simple, just don't go around willfully misgendering people. if you can't bring yourself to gender someone correctly simply don't refer to him/her/them/It/drag. identity should not be gatekept by anyone for any reason, and i wholeheartedly support this policy.

  • neoprulenouns

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  • Those users use neopronouns and apparently for a lot of people it's beyond the limit of their ability to not gatekeep queer people. There was an announcement about it from the admin that was basically "yeah neopronouns are valid, don't misgender anyone period" and several people completely lost their shit and made threads to bitch about it in.

  • Marx would totally write on the liberation of the outlanders rule

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  • it's a reference to a (possibly apocryphal? i'm not very well educated) anecdote about sigmund freud. freud had a hypothesis that basically any phallic object in a dream represents an actual phallus because supposedly basically everything in the human psyche is connected to sex. someone pointed out his fondness of cigars and he replied with the quote, "sometimes a cigar is just a cigar."

  • Not Cis rule

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  • I identify as "very, very tired of thinking about genders, especially my own".

  • A Valve engineer fixed 3D lighting so hard he had to tell all the graphics card manufacturers their math was wrong, and the reaction was: 'I hate you'

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  • god please let it be true.

  • You will live to see horrors beyond your comprulehension

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  • yall talk smack but im old enough to remember animorphs transformers, stupid toys are nothing new

  • Square Enix invests in Linux distribution

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  • It's all too common when anti-phrenology people don't understand phreno101.

  • Capiruleism

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  • Zen Z

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  • oh look yet another warmed over "DAE the kids r bad" talking point that i've been hearing literally since i learned language.

  • What is happening in Norway, and how do we spread it?

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  • yes because having assigned reading material directly and specifically relevant to the subject of the class is exactly the same as registering for a website full of shitposts and propaganda bots. remember when you got all that spam from opening your textbook, and there was an entire chapter calling you out for being a little bitch?

    that's the stupidest comparison i've ever heard.

  • What is happening in Norway, and how do we spread it?

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  • "hey there's this thing called lemmy, check it out some time" <- leading a horse to water

    "ok you have to register an account on lemmy, it's part of your grade" <- shoving a hose down the horse's throat and cranking the spigot

  • What is happening in Norway, and how do we spread it?

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  • requiring my students to create Lemmy accounts

    No. Nobody likes registering accounts for random services because an authority figure told them they had to, I feel like if it were me I would do the bare minimum of interacting that I was required to and never look at the service again out of resentment.

  • Ironing rule

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  • the joke is the guy bitching about illiteracy thinks 40 words is too much to read

  • Ironing rule

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  • native english speaker here, the joke comes across fine and I literally laughed out loud. people who try to police words/grammar/humor like the guy you're replying to are pathetic losers and nobody likes them. keep making funnies in my language and i'll keep laughing and upvoting them!