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@ flicker @lemmy.dbzer0.com

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ADHD advocate, former certified peer recovery specialist (specializing in suicide ideation when comorbid with neurodivergence.)

I don't usually pay attention to whichever instance I've drifted into from all, so if you see me in a weird place, that's why!

  • My New Hobby- Googling Legislation + Heritage Foundation (See Body)

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  • If you're interested, there's some fascinating psychological work done on people like me who were kids living near and in OKC at the time. Not surprisingly, kids who were allowed to watch the live footage of the news that day tended to have higher incidences of PTSD and anxiety disorders as they grow up!

    I recommend to anyone (who wasn't living there at the time) to check out the Memorial. It's absolutely gorgeous. But they play news footage from KFOR that we all watched on TV and that is... stressful!

    It just occurred to me I should write this down somewhere for posterity...

  • My New Hobby- Googling Legislation + Heritage Foundation (See Body)

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  • Oof. I lived in OKC when that happened.

    I don't support the death penalty, but that made me come real close.

  • How can I stretch a 100 year old cowboy hat to fit my fat head?

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  • This joke is made all the better by the character's name being Dr. Kalgary.

  • Pride merch rule

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  • I want to run this booth.

  • Why do, relatively, so few of you set an avatar for your profile?

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  • It's just flickering static. You're not missing out. :)

  • Life at 40

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  • Not even crow's feet.

    I do a facial once a week. I do microdermabrasion once a week. I can't stress enough that I hate the sun. I'm sorry if that isn't your experience, but it happens. I'd share a picture of my face, but I'm trying not to completely dox myself.

    Eta: And lots of water. Gotta drink lots of water.

  • Life at 40

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  • See this is another matter. I don't have wrinkles, but I went gray before I turned 20.

  • Life at 40

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  • I know you're claiming it's not possible but I'm 38, I've done mostly night shifts and stayed out of the sun, I moisturize religiously and have since I was a teen, and I don't smoke and barely drink (ADHD meds don't play nice with alcohol).

    I'm wrinkle-free.

    Now compare to my sister, a few years older than me, used to tan growing up by laying out and getting a sunburn, has smoked since we were teens. Insanely wrinkled. Big, deep wrinkles.

    This happens. I think the other person was being flippant and dismissive but... it happens!

  • Why do, relatively, so few of you set an avatar for your profile?

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  • I don't know why others don't but I'll say why I do, which is that I noticed people were remembering my username whether I had an image or not, so why not have an image? And it was early days, still is, so I figured... may as well be the first static.

  • Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?

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  • Naw, just ADHD and my eyes jumped to the shortest bullet first.

  • Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?

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  • You needed five points to get to saying you don't know what I'm talking about?

  • Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?

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  • I encourage them to continue trying. For science.

    Eta: please don't tell me about it unless you succeed. I was just trying to be supportive.

  • Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?

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  • Please don't believe literally anything you read that references procreation genetics. It turns out, humans are complicated, wars happen, some people value people for their feet more than their faces... there's literally no data that's concrete enough to be valuable enough, and anyone telling you otherwise is doing so either because they're lying to themselves, to you, or selling something.

    Source: having read quite a lot of it over my many years on this earth, and watching it be destroyed time and again. Hell, I could write a paper arguing that people typically choose mates based on their appearance, their intelligence, their height, their income, their geography, their history of family trauma, their interests, their smell... And find documentation of various dubiousness to support each argument.

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  • These words are in English, but the sentiment is so foreign to me I can't seem to comprehend it.

    ...might be fried from work and classwork, tho.

  • Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia?

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  • The boyfriend (also ADHD) and I both have it for people making eating sounds, like eating with their mouths open. Your mentioning smacking made me think of that. Agh!

  • Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia?

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  • I get real mad when people use ADHD as an excuse to be an inconsiderate bag of dicks.

    I prefer to be interacting with several forms of media, yes. But I don't need the sound up on all of them, and if I did, I'd put on my BT headphones and mix the sound levels individually. What an asshole.

  • Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia?

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  • I'm ADD as hell and I couldn't have got with someone who played their things loud like that. I can tolerate one audible thing, but multiple?

  • What was your most unforgettable dream?

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  • Oh my God! I also lived an entire life in a dream!

    I was really lucky, because I lived to an old age, and then my husband died, and I was able to really come to peace with my life and have a healthy relationship with my grown children and my grandchildren before I removed up.

    I guess what I did differently is I had closure, and peace. And it took a week for the reality to sink back in, and for this life to become the real one, but I always felt... that life had its chance, ended. This one needs my very different attention. I'd hate to do this one wrong because I was still living in the last one.

    I'm so glad you found someone real to love. I feel like we should start a lived-a-life-in-a-dream support group. It would've been really nice to have someone who understood then, at the beginning!

  • What's your favorite anime? Only tell us by quoting it and seeing if we can guess

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  • Love... and... PEACE!!!!

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    What item you use frequently would you be least surprised to learn is secretly bad for you?