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njordomir

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  • Fossil rule

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  • Vote to build better infrastructure and provide better transit service. Even if it sucks. A train that goes 65mph next to a 75mph freeway isn't a failure. It's a gateway to better transit. I myself have fallen into the trap of viewing these projects as unworthy or not good enough when they are a step in the right direction.

    I will now almost always hold my nose and vote for things that fund trails, busses, trains, bike infrastructure, etc. Then I'll go and complain online about how they didn't go far enough :-)

  • Donate to your favourite projects!

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  • I think they'd love it if all us poor's died of preventable disease, violent crime, died in their wars, starved to death in food deserts, or willingly subjugated ourselves to become their servants and concubines. If only the rich are left, then essentially the game starts over again.

    The enlightened poors want to remove the top 10% of the pyramid; the rich don't care what happens to the bottom 90% as long as they get to keep growing their money, power, and control.

    If we stop buying their products, stop working in their businesses, stop consuming their media, and start reappropriating their assets, the balance of power would shift very quickly.

    Having said that, I'm a hypocrite who bought something off Amazon in the last 3 months, works for a megacorp, and continues to use big tech in many aspects of my life out of convenience. I've maybe made 20% of the changes I need to make to feel happy about my level of ideological purity and I have an advantage because I understand computers, philosophy, and politics better than most normies in my life.

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    Are there any other ways to make money online / passive income besides filling out surveys?

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  • If you are knowledgeable about something like clothing, fine crystal, tools, trading cards, and have a couple hundred bucks in seed money, you can use your expertise to buy undervalued items at garage sales, estate sales, and thrift stores and resell at market price. You do need the knowledge though because there's a lot of worthless junk to sift through. It's not truly passive, but if you stop when you see garage sales, you will find good flippable items every now and then.

  • Guys where did I put my wallet

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  • I've found my wallet is often where I first looked, just covered in other junk so I didn't see it. Also, if you drive, check the crack between the seat and the door. Hope that helps!

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    what's the best material for wiping out a cast iron skillet?

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  • I could probably learn a lot from the thread. If I don't clean it while it's still warm, I tend to resort to coarse salt, a bit of oil, and a scrubby sponge. Either way, it's not easy for me to clean, especially after eggs.

  • What is the story behind this development pattern?

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  • This is as good a theory as any. I also thought of range and township in the American west. Every time I end up on a road called Meridian, Baseline, Township, or something similar, I'm instantly reminded. Perhaps researching how they measured and recorded land historically would get me closer to an answer.

  • What is the story behind this development pattern?

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  • I am genuinely confused. Of course it has to do with tourism money somehow, but tourism money or not, this seems like a really weird road layout. Never once in Cities Skylines or real life have I ever thought to design a neighborhood like this. Why so long and skinny? Why not a rectangle or a shape bounded by major roads? Having said that, what is this obvious answer that my dumb ass is missing?

  • What is the story behind this development pattern?

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  • Yes, I spotted that as well. The squiggles are very unique. In regards to the straight ones. The other spot I saw stuff like this was in Brazil. Long roads with super short side streets coming off of a major highway, parallel, but not connecting. How odd, the fact that they don't connect East-West is the weirdest part.

  • Would you enter a relationship with someone with genital herpes?

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  • I'm a tall, straight man and squarely middle class so your mileage may vary.

    Lean into the discomfort. Discuss it openly with people. My best relationships were with woman who I was already able to talk about sex stuff with without turning bright red. This sounds like it is a hard place to get to, but that's the religious conditioning. Many people are open to talking about sex if they're comfortable and it's an appropriate environment. Not everyone feels the shame and worry because not everyone went through this.

    Consider talking to a therapist or counselor if it's impacting your ability to function in the world how you want to. Churches are just "good" cults and some use very sketchy, manipulative tactics. It's not your fault you got sucked into it, and it's not too late to unlearn those things. Don't throw out any good things you got from church, I'm great in front of a crowd thanks to my time with religion.

    Lastly, whips and chains may be scary, but some alternative lifestyle communities have classes or discussion groups that can show you the depth and variety of sexual expression without committing to actually participating and in a structured environment which can be a HUGE stress reliever for people.

  • Is there gospel music minus the gospel?

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  • What is the difference between a platonic and a romantic relationship?

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  • Agreed, and friends are great. To expand even further: The fact that romance/friendship exists as a dichotomy rather than a spectrum or a pick-and-choose DIY relationship grab bag is testament to the way many people expect their partner to be their person, their one and only, when in reality we should be in the supportive community of friends and want the same for our partners. I want my partner to have friends because I can't put up with their shit 24/7 ... and vice versa!

    There's also a stereotype about the friend zone, but even as a straight dude I've dated a few friends. The key is to date people you like as your friends, not to pick your "friends" so you can get close enough to date them. It's friendship+, not friendshipOR.

  • What is the difference between a platonic and a romantic relationship?

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  • I don't know if I could have a romantic relationship without some sort of sexual feelings involved or at least a potential for them.

    • A relationship is platonic if I want to spend time with someone doing things but don't want to cuddle, have sex, or kiss.
    • A relationship is sexual if sex is the focus, though friendship may be present.
    • A relationship is romantic when both sex and friendship are focused.

    Let me just say that this is my answer and there is no right answer. It's more important to clearly communicate your desires and ask other people about theirs.

    These semi-arbitrary lines exist to help you learn to paint, but ultimately, you and your partner(s) are the artists of your relationships and if you're painting with the right person(s) you can paint however you want, though you should act ethically and respect other's self-determination.

  • Just a little server

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  • I run a beelink mini, not the weakest one, not the most powerful one, and it handles docker containers and VMs fine. I don't have a tkn of integrated storage, but rather this machine handles apps while a separate NAS does all the file storage. Most I ever had running was 2 VMs and a handful of negligible docker containers but I still had plenty of ram and CPU to spare. I also think the minisforum stuff looks good. Their n5 pro nas just came out and would have made a good server with room to grow. I decided against it because I have parts and I want to use them :-) so the beelink is holding down the fort while I Frankenstein together a rig from my old gaming PC in a huge case that will host all my apps and less critical media. Home assistant which will stay on the beelink because it needs high availability. I've been curious how the lowest priced minisforum models would fare.

  • Meanwhile in Sweden

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  • I don't like it and don't even care to understand why. Thank you for sharing this unholy curiosity.

  • Would you enter a relationship with someone with genital herpes?

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  • Wow, that is quite the story. I have struggled with this question and how I would feel on either side of the equation. As a person who grew up in the conservative 90s who became a more balanced and freethinking person, I still have what might be an irrationally strong fear of STDs. This fear combined with religious conditioning around relationships kind of fucked up high school and early college for me. I was supposed to be boning the entire cheer leading team and I was learning about how angry Jesus was at my impure fantasies. My late 20s and 30s have been a lot better, but I still have a really hard time gaging risks and deciding how I feel about them so I tend to err on the side of being overly careful and miss a lot potentially great experiences with people. I think getting tested with a new partner is always wise.

    One of the other commenters said "a lifetime of pills and difficult conversations". That's one of the scary places my mind might go to, but you could still reframe it as "I'm going to have get better at communicating needs and boundaries in my relationships, especially early on". That sounds less scary and more fulfilling. I still would like to avoid getting infected.

    On a positive note, the fact that she was upfront and honest about it is a good sign. I'd tread carefully but if I really meshed well with the person abd saw a medium/long term future for us, I would probably try to figure something out to make myself more comfortable in the short term, like asking her to confirm she took her meds and using protection. If she cares about you and you make it about your feelings and not blaming her.

    Lastly, none of us are perfect and you might have a few oddities she doesn't find particularly pleasant. Rejecting her for something that she can't change could make her feel like she's "not good enough" or "damaged" and even if you guys don't shaboink I wouldn't want a friend or crush to feel that way. That's the shit her ex did. I think it would be better to tell her how you feel about her (positive) and express that your apprehensive about the herpes thing.

    Sorry for the wall of text. Thought about it a lot thanks to church school.

  • AI-generated search result descriptions

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  • I miss the days when you would get a cached page highlighting the exact places where the search engine found your keywords. The pool of websites felt bottomless and the only thing holding you back was the challenge of picking the exact perfect combination of search terms and operators to narrow it down.

    Search engines have no nuance anymore. It feels like they just dumb down your search to the most relevant thing you can buy now and fill out the rest with vaguely related filler sites. That or they dump you on quora where they will harass you to log in to read anything and spam you mercilessly if you do.

  • What are your thoughts on giving money to beggars?

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  • I won't help every time, but if someone asks and I'm feeling generous, I usually stop and talk for a few mins and hand them $10-20, no strings attached. I'm not the ethics police and if they buy insulin or liquor doesn't matter to me as much as them getting the impression that they aren't invisible and people want to see them prosper. It's too easy to see myself in their situation for me to be an asshole about it. Most of us are only an accident or bad decision away from homelessness and poverty.

  • What cartoon character does this lorry remind you of?

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  • I know it's not a perfect resemblance, but I see it.

  • Looking for a music player

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  • Strawberry is great and so was Clementine before it. It's really a step up compared to what the average distro bakes into their default bundle of applications.

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
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    What do you call a CPA and Tax Advisor?

  • Mildly Infuriating @lemmy.world
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    Consumer Reports tests VPNs... but won't allow you to log in while using one.

  • Linux @lemmy.ml
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    Action Cams on Linux (i.e. GoPro, DJI, Canon, etc)

  • Selfhosted @lemmy.world
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    Considering Hosting NAS/Server

  • Selfhosted @lemmy.world
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    Will This Setup Work? - Nextcloud/Lemmy/PixelFed