You start out in 1954 by saying, “N----r, n----r, n----r.” By 1968 you can’t say “n----r”—that hurts you, backfires. So you say stuff like, uh, forced busing, states’ rights, and all that stuff, and you’re getting so abstract. Now, you’re talking about cutting taxes, and all these things you’re talking about are totally economic things and a byproduct of them is, blacks get hurt worse than whites.… “We want to cut this,” is much more abstract than even the busing thing, uh, and a hell of a lot more abstract than “N----r, n----r.”
I agree about all of this, but I have a counterfactual example to post. I was going on a long hike in the woods once, and I found that it was extremely uncomfortable to be alone with my thoughts for such a long time. I tried focusing on the nature around me, but it was just uncomfortable. So I eventually caved and put on headphones and it really helped to listen to something else as I was walking through this beautiful spot.
So now I see headphones as situational. Sometimes they do help when you don't have enough stimulus to distract you from your own thoughts. If your own thoughts are particularly annoying, but in general I do try to be in appreciation of the nature around me. The birds chirping, the leaves rustling, the people going about their lives, etc.
I tried Tudor and proton's free tier, and I couldn't deal with how they can't use a normal email client.
On the other hand, I've been trying to use Thunderbird with my next cloud calendar and it keeps hanging for me on Ubuntu. So maybe trying to use Thunderbird is a recipe for disaster as well. I don't know what to do.
On IRC if no one answers, they might not be there, but they'll often answer when they get back.
Another channel you might try is ##chat which is general purpose. There is also a list of channels you can search, or you can ask people for recommendations. Bestof luck out there! Come say hi!
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