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  • Why are male social workers so different?

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  • Yep. I'm grateful for the people who choose this work. Sucks they're constantly overworked, under paid, such a frustrating often thankless job. I try to remind them, hey rough job, but you've made a difference for me, so ty.

  • Why are male social workers so different?

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  • I text him. Ask him to tell doctor to fax insurance approval to pharmacy. Instead of doing that, he spends the next 3 hours sending me a series of texts criticizing me, telling me it's my fault, not his, repeatedly pointing out, trying to get me to admit how irrational I was being.

    All I'd said was "at the pharmacy. Can you tell the doctor to resend the insurance approval please?"

  • Why are male social workers so different?

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  • It's not emotional, social. It's mostly text communication. Like, "I'll meet you at the front gate 215pm." Female cm, we meet at the front gate 215pm. Male cm, 15 min later, im still waiting, then angry text from him saying he's waiting somewhere else.

    Ty for your objective response, btw.

  • Why are male social workers so different?

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  • Thank you. As woman with autism, it's weird. Women nts, some tend to unconsciously expect me to behave like a woman. They operate with stereotypes, assume women should be emotional, touchy feely, into romantic comedies, etc. So when I'm logical, to the point, talk about math, science, some can't compute. And some guys, they expect me to behave as a stereotypical female, treat me as such. Then they realize I'm not, am logical, etc, and their demeanor changes, start treating me as one of the guys.

    I've met compassionate, emotional men, and analytical nerdy women. Just, so weird, how gender becomes such a big deal for some.

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    Why are male social workers so different?

  • [serious replies only] Relationship advice

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  • Can't answer question directly. Just, when I was your age, there was so much I needed to learn. Every person takes time to figure things out, overcome shortcomings, work thru stuff.

    At 21, lot to figure out, discover, learn. For me, cuz childhood abuse, trauma, autism, I was a mess. No idea how to have healthy relationships, positive communication, etc.

    So, could be your dude is just young, figuring stuff out. Or could be something else. Only way to know is to ask, talk about it. No assumptions, no judgment. Communication is key.

    Might be useful to research how to communicate effectively. How to talk about stuff in not about criticize, instead seeing other person's viewpoint, meeting half way. Problem is, other person may not want to or be able to.

    You're doing good, asking questions. Keep doing that, and good luck.

  • What do you believe was the best era of the Internet and why?

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  • I used to love doing web design. Was perfect career for me, a mix of creativity and coding. Websites then were art, creative, took risks. Then cms became standard, sites all looking the same. Sites are more user-friendly now, but I miss the wild, weird internet of its early days.

  • Ways to improve academic standing without going to community college?

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  • I don't do well in traditional semester college cuz adhd.

    So, never went to college. Started in fast food, last job was 75k/ year tech job.

    I took a lot of short term accredited programs. ROP certifications. LearnIT. Studied on my own to test MVP certifications for excel, PowerPoint, word. You can study on your own to take A+ certification exam. I took community college non credit classes about various applied arts.

    So, I'd show up at job interviews with no traditional college degree, but a ton of certifications, short term classes, etc. They were fascinated by my diverse tech skills, it showed I had ambition. So I got a lot of jobs easily this way.

    Also, try being a career temp for a while. If you prove you'll show up for the gigs professionally, they'll send you to more assignments . I did this for a decade, got phenomenal skillset, different industries , lot of diverse experience.

  • How to find a temporary job / part time job while you are recovering from depression/anxiety?

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  • Goodwill stores, at least where i live, are good for people in shaky situations. More accepting of people with special needs, circumstances. Mention cuz, not the type of work you're looking for... for me, been out of work so long (8 years), me getting a p/t job at goodwill, committing, proving i can keep it, it's the only way better paying jobs will take me seriously.

    Would like the 75k per year tech job I had b4 becoming homeless. But have to be realistic, start small.

  • When you question your reality, who do you turn to?

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  • Borderline schizoaffective, psychotic features. Constantly questioning sanity. Reality often surreal. Dbt, cbt has helped the most. If I practice mindfulness, grounding exercises daily.... when mind spirals, reality starts to explode, easier to come back, keeps me tethered.

    Tho, once as kid, when I became convinced I might be a disembodied brain floating in a jar, started to seriously freak out. Came home in terrorized panic, flipping madly thru my bookshelf, and reading "summa theologica" finally made the panic stop.

  • What small community do you wish was on Lemmy?

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  • Sometimes, when I've researched something and compiled a ton of useful information about a topic... wish there was a lemmy for that. Kind of the opposite of asklemmy.

  • Your username has suddenly become your only means of staying alive. How bad is it?

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  • I stare at the wall reciting pi over and over, while my body withers, mind untethered, consumed by a mathematical void.

  • What have you changed your mind about?

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  • I used to identify as Libertarianian. Resented taxes, overreaching, infiltrating my life, all about independence, don't want to be interfered with.

    Then I became homeless. Realized how the social services, ssi, Medicare are important. Sure there are lazy people, but also those who genuinely need help, who want to get back on their feet. Care a lot more now about wanting to live in a society that actually cares about the people in it.

  • Do you separate the art from the artists? If no, are you strict about it or do you cherry-pick?

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  • I've learned it's a necessity. If the art itself is good, well done, promotes positive thinking, etc, it's easy to look past the personal failings of the creator. Like joss whedon. Or the Harry Potter author. Nobody's perfect, and if I get super puritan about stuff, I miss out on a lot of good content.

    If the art itself is shitty, offensive, hateful, harmful... nope, I'm not gonna look past that.

    Roman Polanski is tricky. Dude was a horrible human. I don't want to like his movies, but The Tenant is just so darned good.

  • Who is your favorite painter?

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  • Willem de kooning. Early 20s, figure drawing instructor said my live sketches reminded him of de kooning. I'd never heard of him. Few years later, in San Francisco moma, stood in front of one of his Woman paintings, entranced. Thus my love of abstract expressionism began.

  • Why does it seem that people dislike recordings of their voice more than photos of themselves?

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  • I have central auditory processing disorder, capd. Seeing a visual is instantaneous, clear, easy. People speaking is torturous, brain can't process, requires lot of work, confusion, translating. For me, visuals are external, but even external sounds become internal, physical. Activation of the limbic system, anxiety, fear, can lead to hearing voices. Prefrontal cortex, I think, is where brain stops internalizing sound as stress, fear. Why some people with adhd who hear voices take a small, mild dose of Ritalin at night. Ritalin means less limbic, less fear.

    Not an answer to your question, but I think different areas of the brain process sound, visuals. Different mechanisms. I'd be interested to know if someone could shed light on this.

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  • The Cheshire cat, and much of Alice in wonderland, hit quite hard, but in a good way. Helped me see that insanity, mental health issues could be a good thing

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    Do you think there are any homeless people who never use drugs, have no mental illness, but are just sick of society and choose to walk the Earth like Caine in Kung Fu?

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  • I spent the last 8 years living in homeless shelters. I'd say at least 95% of my fellow residents were fleeing domestic violence, drug addicts, people out of jail, elderly, pedophiles, sex offenders, wide variety of mental health issues, some physical disabilities.

    Mental health was the majority, so much so that shelters work in concert with mental health programs. Some short term crisis stabilization places for homeless people leaving psych hospitals.

    Remember one guy in above category refusing to stay in a shelter, said it was more crowded, less freedom. Some people so beaten by bad experiences, trauma, unable to hold jobs their entire life, who'd give up, living on the streets was only stability they could muster.

    It is freeing, in a way. But not as romantic, idealized as some might think.

  • What's the best type of food to eat in a shower?

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  • I used to drink cold bottles of beer while showering. Very doable.

  • Does anyone understand the point of advertising a game doing something that, after downloading, it does not do?

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  • Additional facet: when I was younger, only super nerdy, tech people into coding and stuff played video games. Now tho, way more people playng phone games, video games. So games popping up to cater to people who aren't super nerdy or into tech.

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    Staggered cadence, rhythm generator?

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    Tell me about your cockroach horror story

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    Atypical tips to quit smoking?

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    What tv show had a big impact on you?

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    How to stop door slams shaking my bed?

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    Easy DIY pasta sauce?