I know and understand where it comes from, but I don't want to deal with it in a partner.
The chainsaw thing was absolutely because I'm a chick and representative of his overall attitude toward me that evening. Asking if I'd used a chainsaw would have been appropriate, or a quick rundown on starting/stopping would have been fine.
Basically, I ask myself if he would have said the same thing in the same way to a man. I've worked on enough jobsites to know that no, that doesn't happen.
I was like this when I started dating. Popular media and family impacted how I viewed love and relationships, so accustomed to living with controlling narcissists I didn't understand what healthy affection looked like.
My first relationships were nightmares with similar people who reinforced those ideas. If I was approached by someone with a healthy, balanced mindset, I wouldn't know what to do with them.
Which is not to provide a solution, but rather some insight. In a sense it's a good thing you recognize a toxic situation before it begins, in another sense it can be lonely and frustrating, and I can commiserate from the other side
Creative, fun and encouraging. Emotionally mature, respectful, and commited to ongoing self improvement. Everything else is peripheral, but bonus points for writers and artists who are into pc gaming and technology.
My biggest issue has been men socialized with some kind of bias against women, who don't examine their need to protect and try to make decisions for me. I'm pansexual but lean toward people with dicks.
I learned how to use power tools when I was seven, I'm mechanically inclined, and built my own PC at eighteen. There are an unfortunate number of men who will start a conversation with me from a place of condescension. The last date I went on, he showed me his chainsaw, I asked to try it out and what he said started with "Okay, well it can be a little scary at first because it's loud..."
Another guy told me I was cracking eggs wrong when I made breakfast. I used to be a head chef.
Drums. I got a used electronic kit, a lower-end Roland model, and only play it for me. I learned the basic rhythms so I can throw some tunes on my headphones and try to play along. More meditation than anything else.
This brings me back. I hitch-hiked across Canada with a friend who brought one of these. He was meh on the guitar but amazing on this thing, and it was easy to travel with. I learned a few tunes, too. Lots of sitting in back seats, playing for whoever picked us up.
There's another vote for strumstick. Thanks for the memory.
The amount of corporate bios I've read that talk about wives, husbands and family is astounding.
But I'm not totally sure what this is. It looks like someone joining the community to work for free? I might be wrong. If that's the case they should be allowed to write whatever the hell they want as long as it's not hurtful.
And super weird they'd take out "queer" but leave the furry thing. Not that there's anything wrong with either.
What, lol.
My post was about how I'm not attracted to it.
You might want to stop conducting gender studies at bars.