I disagree with the ‘nothing to hide’-argument, but can you please explain why it’s a logical fallacy?

What do I do during this time? I lie in bed with my eyes closed and try to fall asleep. I get up every half hour to hour and have a glass of water in the dark or something like that.

Do people mean ‘i don’t want to go to bed’ when they say they can’t sleep?

I mostly dress for sensory issues and gender dysphoria. For work, I additionally dress to get taken seriously and in my free time, I dress for fun (sparkles, bright colours, frills, think David Bowies more fem looks). So, like most people, a mix of both, with one or the other being a stronger consideration in different situations.

iirc it’s ‘several species of small furry animals gathered in a cave grooving with a pict’

Same, except horrible periods. Doctors were puzzled that I didn’t notice until quite far in that a bunch of my knee cartilage is just gone. I’ve also gotten a tooth cavity fixed without anesthesia. Doctors have warned me of pain when treating a laceration and then it felt like it just never happened.

But I’ll cry when the sun hits my face, or when I’m itchy, or when I’ve been wearing leggings or a turtleneck for too long, or when there’s a group of children on the bus.

But are they not already able to have a file linked to your physical ID? What difference does digitising ID make in that regard?

Knowing the template, this actually does make sense. The first three are ones where it’s super clear that you’d have to be quite stupid to fall for it. Then the fourth one, a lot of people wouldn’t immediately realise you have to be stupid to fall for them, but it’s stupid to fall for them nonetheless.

True to the meme format, the point isn’t that it isn’t stupid to fall for the first three. It clearly is. But falling for the fourth one is stupid, too.

(though I must admit, the selection of some of the examples is pretty weird)

Gotcha! Kinda wanted to justify what fuelled that mess of a sentence haha

Nah I’m just full of ADHD meds, nicotine and caffeine

I’m the straightest person. I don’t have a gender, and I’m attracted to all genders. ‘all’ and ‘none’ are by far more opposite each other *than any two specific sexes or genders could ever be.

That is indeed the origin! https://www.etymonline.com/word/martial

Well if they give you shit about that, they just lost the right to know about your food budget (if possible). Likewise, instead of lying to your aunt, you could say that you won’t eat at hers because of past experiences. It’s muuuch harder in the moment, but imo worth it long term. Therapy didn’t help me as much as it seems to help others, but setting boundaries is one of the things it did help me with. Is that an option for you? I’m not saying lying is unethical in your situation, it isn’t. But, in my experience, it can become stressful long term, and it likely won’t actually solve anything.

Do you live with family?

If not, consider that your family aren’t entitled to you. If they can’t behave, don’t have meals with them. I did this, and when they realised I was serious, they started trying to make an effort to properly include me in meals without even making me feel like I had to eat something seperate. E.g. they never make fish when I’m visiting (the smell alone can literally make me vomit, I used to have to eat just sides in the living room on my own when they made fish when I was growing up), when they have breaded meat (meat viscerally disgusts me ever since I learned it was made of an animals muscle as a child) I get breaded veg. If they slip up we talk about it, but when they straight up disrespected me in ways similar to how your family seems to disrespect you, I wouldn’t eat with them for some weeks after. They learned.

My coping strategy is having ADHD in addition so autism to both routine and change are mentally painful in different ways

That aside, have you tried mentally grounding yourself by focusing on the familiar? Such as your music, how the muscles feel as you engage then, how your deodorant smells if you use a fragrant one, etc. Not a perfect solution, but it has helped me in the past.

I’m not American, but yeah I’m staying vigilant

For me it’s one item on the long list of Is It Because of my Autism or my Trauma

Who knew my sensory issues having ass was relatively safe all along between my noise cancelling over ears, sunglasses and COVID masks

Yeah I know right? I’ve heard similar things. On the flip side, I’ve been called weird for not just making random noises with my voice, for example when sneezing or not screaming on a rollercoaster.

You calling it performative yawning reminds me. What’s up with that? Why do some people engage their vocal cords when they yawn? My yawns sound like long, soft sighs.

The wishing they weren’t a specialist is so real. I wish my psychiatrist was also my GP and my therapist. I’ve found out through her about diagnoses that are in my chart that nobody ever bothered to tell me about and that I overlooked in there, as well as about off label medication uses that you mentioned and medication or illness interactions I never would’ve guessed. Outside her domain too, e.g. between my thyroid meds and ibuprofen. All the GPs I’ve ever been to are either jaded, refuse to learn or admit you might know something they dont, or don’t take you seriously.