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Droggelbecher

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  • Do you ever feel like a lot of conflict and controversy could be avoided if everyone was more clear about what they mean?

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  • But as I said, this specific issue is something I witness among NTs all the time, not just between ND and NT.

  • I hope you do

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  • I got some preliminary testing done by a clinical psychologist for both ADHD and autism, and it indicated I have both. For a diagnosis to 'count' medically, you have to have a doctor make it though, so I went to a psychiatrist.

    Both the psychologist and psychiatrist basically advised that I should only seek a medical diagnosis for neurodivergence if I was going to seel treatment or other disability accomodations with it. Otherwise, there's no real benefit and a huge chance of discrimination by other doctors. A friend, who's from another country, said her psych gave the exact same advice.

    So I only got a medical diagnosis for ADHD and remain content with the psychologist's autism 'diagnosis'.

  • If you speak a language that has a formal 'you', when do you use it?

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  • Please reread my common. I said in my region, western austria, we use the formal you less than the rest of the German speaking world does.

  • If you speak a language that has a formal 'you', when do you use it?

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  • Like I said, I'm in Austria

  • If you speak a language that has a formal 'you', when do you use it?

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  • Haha close, 950 commuting down to 600. But it's the same down there in the city. Most of my social contacts as well as my work are there, anyway!

  • If you speak a language that has a formal 'you', when do you use it?

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  • The former is what I used to think, but I've been noticing she does it in one-on-one conversation as well, and as far as I can tell, that's the case for everyone. Also, in written assignments, in the beginning, it would be, for example, 'schreibe [...]' and is now 'escrivez [...]'

    It's also a uni class, so not all students are younger than the teacher.

  • If you speak a language that has a formal 'you', when do you use it?

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  • I'm in Austria speaking German and I'm learning French. Our rules for 'du' are very different from the ones in Germany though, and vary wildly regionally- from using 'Sie' for your drinking buddies to using 'du' for authority figures. From what I gather in this thread, the rules in Germany and France are similar?

  • If you speak a language that has a formal 'you', when do you use it?

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  • How about in a uni class? My teacher uses 'vous' and 'du'. That's what prompted the question!

  • If you speak a language that has a formal 'you', when do you use it?

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  • I could answer my own question, actually!

    For reference, I'm in western austria, speaking German. The class I'm taking is A2 French.

    My region is pretty different from most of the German speaking 'world'. We use the formal you much less. The informal one is more or less th default, except:

    You're in secondary school. The teachers will use the informal one for students and the students have to use the formal one for most teachers. In high school, students can technically request that teachers use the formal you for them, but nobody does. I teach night school, and nobody used the formal you. Most of my students are very roughly around my age.

    You're seeing a doctor you don't repeatedly go to, e.g. at the hospital. We use informal you for the specialists and GPs we see regularly, unless they're ~60+.

    You're a bachelor's student. Formal you for both students and professors. Unless the teacher is a masters or PhD student, then informal you both ways. Masters and PhD students tend to use informal you with professors and vice versa, but some professors will be the exception and there will be formal you both ways.

    Court. Formal you, except between a lawyer and their client.

    Some stuffy, old fashioned workplaces use formal you, but only between boss and employees, very very rarely between employees. If it's some higher level management person you don't usually work with, it's more likely you'll use formal you both ways.

    Super specific, but 80+ year old people who've never lived outside a city will want kids to use formal you for them, but they'll use the informal one for the kids.

    German tourists. We're aware that informal you is more common in Germany, and try to me courteous. Except those of us who hate tourists, lol.

    That's all the exceptions I can think of! For everyone else, including strangers (e.g. when asking for directions, cashiers, waiters, etc.) we use the informal one!

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    If you speak a language that has a formal 'you', when do you use it?

  • What's your favourite?

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  • CW self harm

    I mean, the lines are pretty blurred! For myself, I only categorise something as self harm when feeling physical pain is the primary objective of what I'm doing. Exercise is often painful, but the pain isn't the main reason I'm doing it, so it's not self harm. Likewise, when I pick my skin, the goal isn't to experience pain, but to have a non-pain sensory stimulus. The fact that it harms my body is an unfortunate side effect that my lizard brain deems to be worth it sometimes. Same with overtraining when I know I have arthritis (because the mental health benefits are still worth it to me).

    For me personally that's a somewhat helpful way of framing it, sorry if that's not the case for you! Made it easier for me to quit intentionally causing myself physical pain. Also made it easier to be compassionate with myself about the skin picking and nail biting when I slip up, because it's more a force of habit and not a self harm thing. Also also made it easier to pivot to just rubbing my fingernails or clicking them together, because it's sensory stimulation I'm after, not pain.

    Tangential, but I haven't figured out how to categorise causing myself pain to snap out of a panic attack. I usually slap my face or run very cold water over my hands, and the pain brings my feet back on the ground (metaphorically speaking).

  • What's your favourite?

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  • Biting my nails and picking my skin :3

  • Which food gives you the best bowel movement?

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  • Should combine that with brown lentil Bolognese. That's my (also vegan btw) poop-even-better-than-usual food.

  • Helpful fact

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  • Right there with you! Stay strong, it's tough, but so worth it.

  • Helpful fact

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  • If it makes you feel any better, the diagnosis doesn't really help this. It's just less 'you don't even know for sure you're x' and more 'stop blaming your x for everything'.

  • Zenni’s Anti-Facial Recognition Glasses are Eyewear for Our Paranoid Age

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  • They just said especially for protests, implying you'd best do it more often than that. Didn't want anyone to take them too literally.

  • Zenni’s Anti-Facial Recognition Glasses are Eyewear for Our Paranoid Age

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  • I'd strongly advise against doing this every day. I developed osteoarthritis in my 20s just from my feet being slightly misaligned. Walking wonky can very easily permanently wreck your joints.

  • How do you work at a job where you fundamentally disagree with the company's ethics?

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  • In my experience, it's much more often:

    1. be young
    2. be very passionate about the ability to afford food and shelter

    It's honestly weird how most of this thread acts like everyone can pick and choose their employment all the time. Most of us can't, at least not always.

  • Anyone else not watch movies or TV shows?

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  • In my circle this doesn't seem uncommon. I feel like more of an outlier because I don't really watch YouTube or anything similar.

  • Does it get windy in New York City?

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  • That was one of the first things I noticed when visiting north America. The grid really does make cities super windy compared to the cities I'm used to, which grew naturally over centuries and aren't on a grid. And I'm from a city that's pretty windy for geographical reasons. Still doesn't compare.

  • Programmer Humor @programming.dev
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    How people react when they see me work.

  • Autism @lemmy.world
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    Does anyone else have this weird quirk where you prefer phonecalls over emails?