If you don't understand how it feels to need subtitles, try listening to a yanny/laurel video and see if you're able to hear both.
For us folks with auditory processing disorders, it's like the rest of the world hears yanny while we hear laurel. Without subtitles, we are simply incapable of parsing the sound as yanny.
I like how you have no issues with everyone else presuming OP's gender given the prevalence of heterosexuality, but as soon as a woman does it in a majority male forum like Lemmy, you start mentally breaking down.
I hope you overcome your incel tendencies, learn to stop grasping at straws, and accept that what ever hate you have towards women is unfounded and a product of your delusions.
You're simpler than you think you are. Explosive temper in your response, grasping at straws and deflecting, calling women bitchy on a stranger's word.
Some therapy could help with that. Feel sorry for yourself first before feeling sorry for others.
Being able to vote doesn't make one immune to exploitation. That's as bizarre as saying that if you can do a backflip you're immune to drowning.
The reason why 18 year old are allowed to vote is because they are typically entering the work force or higher education, likely paying rent or taxes, and thus are engaging in a social contract in which they are entitled to exercise their right to vote.
This has nothing to do with the lack of dating experience most 18 year olds have that render them vulnerable to understanding what is and isn't a healthy relationship.
It's ironic that you would call me the Iranian morality police while threatening to block me for voicing an opinion that explicitly supports the legal exploitation of age gaps. Again, I never said it should be illegal, just heavily frowned upon.
I cum to the thought of being blocked because nothing says 'You're right and I'm out of bullshit to say' more than that.
False accusations are inexcusable and can ruin men's lives and hurt the integrity of real reports by other women. I'm sorry if this is something you went through.
However, two things can be true at the same time. False accusations are bad, and the rates of unreported sexual assault far eclipse that of false accusations.
Male privilege does not mean that all aspects of men's lives are easier, only that you have better statistical odds compared to a woman in identical circumstances as you.
Acknowledging male privilege isn't an act of denying the existence of men's issues. It's about acknowledging women's issues that were not visible to men until it was pointed out.
It's my female privilege. I get the pleasure of hearing this guy talk more lmao.
People don't generally set ultimatums unless it's something that has been bothering them for a long time and hasn't been addressed.
The way you call OP's girlfriend 'bitchy and entitled' just reeks of misogyny when she never got to tell her side of the story. People like you should be setting aside your own biases and ask if OP is a reliable narrator, instead of taking everything at face value because a man's word is more trustworthy than his account of a woman's word to you.
You're confusing the law with personal judgment.
No where did I say that huge age gaps need to be illegal between consenting adult. I only made a value statement about how the relationship is inappropriate because younger adults are vulnerable to exploitation. At 18, most people do not have the financial means nor a strong support network to leave an abusive relationship or a manipulative partner.
It has nothing to do with LGBTQ people because being non-binary does not make one inherently vulnerable to exploitation by another non-binary person.
Privilege is not a binary concept. You can be privileged in one regard and under-privileged in another, also known as intersectionality.
You can be a straight white male and still be under-privileged as a person born to poor socioeconomic conditions, work in an underpaid job, have a disability, couldn't afford higher education, be secular, and so on.
Being privileged in one regard doesn't erase your under-privileged circumstances in another. Women are simply asking for men to acknowledge that there are circumstances made more difficult in life by virtue of being a woman.
A great example is how women typical receive poorer outcomes in modern medicine because of how their symptoms are downplayed and dismissed, but are acknowledged when they happen to men. Your statistical probability of getting better healthcare for being a man, doesn't negate your statistical probability of getting worse healthcare due to other forms of systemic discrimination like those against poorer patients or chronically ill patients.
How do you know she's the main tenant and not on a sublease? How do you know what OP means when he said his GF 'gave' him one afternoon? If he doesn't get it fixed, she'll do what? Stop coming over? Stop sharing finances? Break up?
So many unasked questions and yet everyone is quick to assume that the GF is insane. I wonder why that is.a
ITT: People telling OP to break up with her because we are absolutely certain that she is crazy and only gave him one afternoon to fix this, and there is no way she could have been losing sleep for days or weeks while asking him to do something about it, like hold the landlord accountable.
First off, fuck pedophiles.
But secondly, becoming 18 doesn't suddenly make one any less vulnerable to exploitation than a 17 year old who is 1 day away from becoming 18.
Just because someone is 18 and 'legal', it doesn't make it not gross for a 40 year old to date them. It's an improvement from dating a 15 year old, but gross regardless.
It's more like a bunch of paraplegic people asking you if they can borrow your wheelchair because doctors will not acknowledge their need for one and dismiss their symptoms as drug seeking behavior.
Speaking as a woman who only got diagnosed in my late 20s after years of needless suffering. Boys are 3 times more likely to be diagnosed than girls because our current ADHD assessments are based on studies from decades ago that were only done on boys. Girls are socialized differently as children and thus present different symptoms. Behavior that is excused in boys for having ADHD, like not being able to sit still or running around yelling a lot, is punished as 'un-girly behavior' and internalized as a failure to adhere to gender roles in girls, hence why girls are conditioned to mask better at a young age, at the expense of their own mental health the longer they continue to mask.
This is the other side of the coin from the social media backlash against women coming out with ADHD whilst the internet dismisses them for faking ADHD and being attention whores. Women are punished, not rewarded, for masking their ADHD. The more effort we put into masking, the more people assume we are neurotypical, and the more we are criticized for ADHD symptoms we are unable to mask because we are held to the same standards as neurotypicals.
The brevity of police training program is definitely a major contributor.
While there are mental health programs present, the stigma of mental health has rendered many of them unused. Police surveyed in North Dakota found that an overwhelming majority will not disclose their mental health issues to their colleagues or supervisors, most expect to be discriminated if they do, and see mental health issues as a personal failure.
Of the services provided, only debriefings and weight rooms saw significant use. Outside of that, few used therapy, peer support groups, mental health checks, and resilience therapy.
That's a good point. Conservatives often excuse the abuse of power because the scope of police work demands it, without acknowledging that there are non-police alternatives that are likelier to descalate a situation.
I think this ties into their inability to acknowledge mental health as a real and treatable issue. Perhaps because doing so would require acknowledging their own while being inhibited by the shame and cultural conditioning they grew up with.
It is horrifying for so many to fail their psych exam. However, I would also question if this is the most effective approach to better policing outcomes.
Psych exams in volatile workplaces are contradictory due to self reported elements in the exam. In aviation, there is a phenomenon where pilots historically masked mental health issues because a diagnosis was a death sentence to their careers. Paradoxically, acknowledging and allowing pilots to fly with these issues while being medicated has led to better outcomes.
The police who answered truthfully in the exam were fired, but that begs the question of whether the remainder were mentally sound or simply knew how to mask themselves in the psych exam.
No, I am speaking about the police specifically.
The advancements being made to mental health care in the military are meaningful, and the reduction of homeless veteran through housing programs speaks to the progress and recognition of difficulties in reintegrating into civilian life.
Why isn't police mental health a concern?
Tape doesn't always refer to adhesive backed banding.
Think of all the non-adhesive tapes in modern day, like measuring tape, plumbing tape, video tape, cassette tape, binding tape, bias tape, Velcro tape, caution tape, seam tape, magnetic tape, etc.
Levels of whataboutism that would make conservatives proud. Truly quality Lemmy content.
Everyone pees. But it's not normal if you have to pee 20 times a day.
This is what I tell every person who believes that people are pathologizing normal behavior into autism. If it doesn't significantly impact your life, if it's only one or two traits, then it's not autism.
I had meltdown episodes as a child when anyone attempted to dress me in anything that had a seam that could be felt, edges of Velcro, clothing tags, untucked shirts and the sensory nightmares of cold buttons on my pants, dresses without shorts under, etc.
As an adult, I still can't wear normal bras, clothing that isn't soft, most jeans which have stiff seams on the waist, and so many materials that itch the hell out of me.
To this day, I have had friends treat me like a brainwashed social media nut for even suggesting that I may have autism. All while I'm going to the movie theater with non-polarized shades and ear plugs.