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SkaraBrae

@ SkaraBrae @lemmy.world

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Every opinion I have is my own. Every opinion I have is subject to change without notice. If you think my opinion is incorrect, change it with facts (citations needed). Be kind. Be cool. Be yourself.

  • It's Saturday 08/30/2025. Hey What's Going On!

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  • Hello.

    I'm a neurotypical, 48 y.o. male who has recently started working as a disability support worker.

    Some of my clients are on the ASD and ADHD spectrum and I'm here to try and understand autism and ADHD a little better. I have no (known) prior experience living or interacting with non-neurotypical individuals.

    This is all new to me and I don't want to make mistakes. I know I will, but I hope that people are patient with me. I will be lurking, and occasionally asking questions. Please forgive me if my questions are offensive, that is not my intention, I am still learning. I just want to be the best support worker I can be.

    If I offend, the more information you can give me, the better I can adjust my language or attitude so as to not offend in future.

    If anyone has any questions for me, then please, ask them. I will answer as honestly and as plainly as I know how.

  • What in your country/area is totally normal but visitors get excited for?

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  • Platypuses don't eat fish. They eat worms and yabbies and insect larvae. I don't know why the fish stay away from them, but they do... Maybe the platypuses are territorial as they're competing for the same food? 🤷

  • What in your country/area is totally normal but visitors get excited for?

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  • Kangaroos, wombats and platypuses.

    Kangaroos and wombats are dangerous when you're driving at night.

    To be fair, I'm probably unique in my apathy toward, borderline dislike of, platypuses. When I'm out fishing and I see a platypus I pack up and go somewhere else because I know I won't be catching any fish.

  • Why don't they have simpler names for brain disorders, where perhaps even the person suffering the disorder might be able to remember the term themself?

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  • Part of the problem with dementia is that short term memory loss and aphasia are two of the most common early symptoms. It's not because it's a difficult word, it is because their brain no longer has the capacity to function that way. It wouldn't matter what you called it, they still may not be able to learn it or remember it: the part of the brain that used to do that for them may no longer be accessible.

    Most people don't realise that dementia is terminal. It is a gradual cognitive and physical decline that results in death.

    The Wicking Dementia Research and Education Centre at University of Tasmania has an open course on Understanding Dementia that is really good, and free, if anyone is interested in learning more.

  • What’s one thing you wish more people noticed in everyday life?

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  • That while they judge themselves by their best intentions, they invariably, and subconsciously judge others by their actions.

    Damn. That's deep.

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  • Australia. All cunts.

  • What is the scariest shit you can think of?

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  • Surviving my children.

  • Is there an actor you can't stand? Do they have any exceptions?

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  • He was great in High Fidelity but unfortunately he's played the same character in every movie since!

  • What is your absolute favourite track from a video game?

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  • The CD-rom for Mechwarrior 2 could play in a standard CD player. Track one was the data for the game, but the remaining 22-odd tracks were the in-game music. We used to listen to the Mechwarrior 2 soundtrack while playing everything else. I still love that music.

  • 8 billion people vs. 3000 billionaires: Who would win?

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  • I worked with a guy that proudly proclaimed that he voted for the right because they looked after the rich.

    He was not rich, but he purchased lottery tickets weekly and stated he'd rather get screwed while poor than pay more tax if he, some day, became rich.

    And that was the day I realised that we're fucked.

  • What is a good way to improve my handwriting?

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  • I learned to write a couple of different styles/fonts for a job I had a few years ago.

    1. Get yourself a copy of the style you would like to emulate.
    2. Use a pencil and copy the font on a lined page. The lines help with proportion, size and shape. The pencil helps with pressure regulation. Press too hard and you will break the pencil: press too light and you won't see the writing.
    3. Write slowly. Be deliberate: focus on copying the shape as precisely as you can.
    4. Practise, practise, practise. You need to develop muscle memory and that takes time.

    It's doable, but it takes patience and time, like any skill. Good luck.

  • What's your favourite fast food burger?

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  • Hungry Jacks Bacon Deluxe

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  • To me, depression has always been like Bilbo in Mirkwood. He's at the top of the trees, looking around, but all he can see is trees. He doesn't realise that they're in a valley, so there's nothing but trees all of the way to the horizon. There is no end in sight. There's no point in going on: he knows that they can't go on much further, so why bother even trying. They might as well give up. But we know, from outside looking in, that he's just got to make it to the top of the next valley. If he checks again once he reaches the top then he will be able to see all the way to the Lonely Mountain and that the trees end soon and give way to the lake... He's almost through the darkest part.

    So back to your question...

    Making an appointment to see a therapist gives you a goal. You've made a commitment to be at a specific place at a specific time. That is often enough to get you up the next valley to see a way forward. The therapy itself can also be quite beneficial, but I've always seen the making and keeping of the appointment as a fundamental motivator for my own will when I'm deeply depressed. It's hilarious to me that I will consider ending it all, despite the effect I know it will have on my family and friends, but that I would postpone suicide to keep me from the embarrassment of missing an appointment. The depressed brain is completely irrational.

    Exercise requires getting up, getting outside, going to the gym, going to the park, being around people... The exercise itself is beneficial with the endorphins and the elevated heart rate and the requirement for replenishment (eating food), but again, for me it has always been just getting out of my room and going somewhere. Just get to the front door... Right, you're here now! Might as well go for a walk. Just gotta hang on long enough to get to the top of the next valley.

    I recommend exercise and therapy because it forces people to choose between the "permanent solution to the temporary problem" and the possibility of hope. 99.9% of the time, people will choose hope.

    I also recommend them because they both work for me. There's no cure: you've just gotta hold on long enough to see the lonely mountain.

  • How many times did you and your partner break up before you figured things out? and are you happy now?

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  • We didn't break up, but she broke off our engagement. I was a bit of a dick and she told me so. I told her that she should propose to me when she was ready. I sorted my shit out. Together 21 years, married for 16.

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  • And keep eye contact. Preferably without blinking.

  • How you all doing rn?

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  • I'm really angry. My oldest son's school sent me an email this afternoon lecturing me on his attendance and how it affects his grades and how it makes the school look bad, etc...

    We had a few weeks off earlier this year when my grandfather and my mother-in-law died (both suddenly and unexpectedly) within two weeks of each other.

    My younger son's school offered assistance, counselling and anything else that they could think of to offer. They were very supportive. My older son's school has just berated us for grieving and supporting each other, our friends and our family. I'm so fucking angry. They know that bereavement was the reason for his absence. Cunts.

  • What's your advice for someone driving their first manual transmission car?

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  • Except one short mention about riding the clutch, I haven't seen this yet... Get into the habit of completely removing your foot from the clutch pedal whenever possible. Even just lightly resting your foot against the pedal can wear your clutch out prematurely. Cruising on the highway: remove your foot from the clutch pedal and rest it on the floor. Sitting at the lights: put the car in neutral and release the clutch. Put your foot on the floor until you're ready to go. Also, it's ok to coast to a stop with the clutch pedal depressed, but you have much more control if you downshift to a stop and you will extend the life of your brakes, too.

  • For those who play games on a PC with 2 monitors, are you a game on the left screen or game on the right screen person?

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  • Game on the left monitor. My left monitor is directly in front of my chair, though. Right monitor is portrait for browser, discord and whatever else I need at the time. The whole setup flipped (🔄) when I moved my desk last week, though.

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    How do I start a new instance?

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  • /c/smallvictories

    I like the idea. Post the address when you kick it off!

  • Who is a celebrity you used to really like, but don't anymore?

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  • Bill Cosby. I was raised on Bill Cosby albums and TV shows. I can't listen to him any more.