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SkaraBrae

@ SkaraBrae @lemmy.world

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Every opinion I have is my own. Every opinion I have is subject to change without notice. If you think my opinion is incorrect, change it with facts (citations needed). Be kind. Be cool. Be yourself.

  • If you were forced to play one professional sport as your job until you were 65, which would you pick?

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  • Cricket. There are many different roles in the team and you get to hang out outside with your teammates all day. Also, if it rains you go inside and have something to eat.

  • How do you pronounce in words the following two references to money: "6½d" and "6s. 6d." from a 1904 text?

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  • 6½d. Would be 6.5 pence, or sixpence and hap'ne (halfpenny). 6s. 6d. Would be 6 shillings and sixpence, or 6 and 6.

    Source: my parents and grandparents are/were English (Birmingham and Warwick) and I heard stories when I was growing up, as well as a couple of texts and TV shows. Sketchy sources, yes, but hopefully gets you started! Also, I'm probably wrong.

  • What are some physical items that should be available at libraries for people to borrow?

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  • Specifically 10mm sockets.

  • What was the stupidest road trip youve ever been on?

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  • I had been awake for 36 hours and my mother insisted that I keep her company on a 5 hour drive to pick up her boyfriend. When she called I told her that I was going to bed. She turned up at mine to pick me up, anyway, and forced me into the car: I was too tired to resist. I slept all the way there and all the way back.

  • Travel Day Two Rant

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  • Your coach sounds like an arse. Every runner knows: nothing new on race day! You eat what you ate when you were training. You stick to your familiar routines.. Obviously, travelling away from home makes some adjustments necessary, but you keep it as normal as possible.

    Well done on a good race under difficult conditions.

  • Are you CPR/First Aid certified? If so, do you carry around a "rescue breath mouth shield" with you everywhere you go?

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  • I did my CPR and First aid earlier this year (3rd time) in Australia and mouth-to-mouth wasn't taught as part of CPR this time.

  • What's something that, after you had it, you immediately wanted another?

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  • Not a traumatic brain injury...

    It's a change in perspective. It's hard to explain without referencing the experience itself.

    It's like spending your whole life at the bottom of a valley. You have everything you need. Your life is whole. And then someone takes you to the top of a mountain and you can see a million valleys and a million mountains and an endless sky. Your valley is the same, it hasn't changed, but suddenly everything is different. Your life is still whole, but that means something else, now.

    That doesn't do it justice, but hopefully you get the picture...

  • What's something that, after you had it, you immediately wanted another?

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  • "Born with...?" We are born with nothing but potential. We are a product of our environment, right up until we realise that we are a product of our environment. Then we have a choice; continue as we are, or choose to be something different. It doesn't matter which we choose, though... We can no longer blame our parents, our society, our environment, for who we are.

    That is a strange question, though. If I was born with empathy and a drive to be a kind, gentle, teaching human then I think babies would be high on the list of people I would want to spend time with. Kindness begets kindness and we know the world could use more kindness!

  • What's something that, after you had it, you immediately wanted another?

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  • When I was young I was a bit of an arse. Raised by narcissists, I definitely had narcissistic tendencies. It was all I knew. When my first son was born it was a profound moment. I saw the potential in that tiny, helpless baby and his possible futures... Based on what I was and what I had to teach, I realised that those futures weren't great. So I changed. I have tried every day since to be the parent that I wish I had. I have embraced empathy and kindness. I have shed the anger and vanity... And I have forgiven myself for not doing it sooner. I'm not perfect. I make mistakes. When I see a baby I see the potential. It reminds me of how much I've changed, how proud of my kids I am, how much I love my family, how much joy I have in my life.

    More or less...

  • What's something that, after you had it, you immediately wanted another?

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  • Yeah. We have a small collection.

  • What's something that, after you had it, you immediately wanted another?

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  • I like all babies. I do prefer my own, and I only moon over babies if I know the parents and have approval...

  • What's something that, after you had it, you immediately wanted another?

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  • A baby. As soon as my son was born I knew we'd have another. And we did. Then I had a vasectomy because I knew we'd never stop. Babies are cool.

  • Can you please draw a bicycle from memory (no looking/cheating)?

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    Dad dating a minor; what to do?

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  • I appreciate your response and I don't think you should be downvoted for it.

    I agree that it is gross. As a 48 year-old myself, there is no way that I would date a 17 year-old and I would voice my objection if it were one of my friends or family...

    The legality matters because the laws are usually aligned with the moral and ethical standards set by the society to which they apply. The moral and ethical standards in OP's country are not the same as in mine and I cannot apply my moral standards to their situation.

    But that is not the question. The question asked is "what should I do?" not "how do you feel about it?" They stated that they value the relationship with their father, therefore interfering or objecting are not possible without risk to that relationship. That leaves living with it peacefully or living somewhere else as the only two viable options.

    As for grooming... Grooming (in this context) is the act of preparing for, not already engaged in, a sexual relationship. This relationship is beyond grooming and, like you said, gross (as seen through my moral lens).

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    Dad dating a minor; what to do?

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  • I'm 48. A 48 year-old is like me. There's no way I could keep up with a 17 year-old.

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    Dad dating a minor; what to do?

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  • If it's legal, then you've either got to put your morality aside and accept it or remove yourself from the situation. You can't demand that others alter their behaviour to suit your moral code. There's a better-than-fair chance that it won't work out, anyway. She will want to do things that he's not capable of due to his age, and he will want to do things that she's not mature enough to process reasonably. If the relationship lasts, then good on them for finding happiness. From a personal point-of-view, I would be weirded out if my dad's girlfriend was younger than me, too.

  • What are your "must-watch" movies?

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  • The question was about movies.

  • What are your "must-watch" movies?

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    • Alien, then Aliens, then stop. If you watch Alien 3 then watch Alien: Resurrection, too, to get the taste out of your mouth, but then definitely stop.
    • Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark
    • Indiana Jones and the Temple Of Doom
    • Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade
    • Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon
    • House of Flying Daggers

    If you watch Star Wars, then watch in this order:

    • Episode 4 A New Hope
    • Episode 5 The Empire Strikes Back
    • Episode 2 Attack of the Clones
    • Episode 3 Revenge of the Sith
    • Episode 6 Return of the Jedi

  • How do you balance enjoying what you do with having friends?

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  • You could try "I'm going to do this thing on this day. If you would like to join me, I'll be there at this time. Let me know if you're coming by (RSVP date) so that I can book you a spot/plate/room: it will be $this much." And then make your plans and do them anyway.

    This way it's clear that you are doing the thing. If people say "can we do this or this instead?" you reply with "Hey, great idea! Maybe next time. I've already planned the other thing for this time."

    Sometimes it will be on your own. Sometimes others will want to join you. Sometimes you can join others on their quests, too, but remember to not try and change their plans to suit yourself.

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