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canadianchik

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  • I need relationship advice. Bf (ex) doesn't want to date because lack of trust he has for me

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  • No everything you say is true I didn’t think it was a big deal to share my Instagram like if someone came up to me people have an Instagramin real life. I always said no I have a boyfriend. I know I’m a loyal person, especially to those I love, which is why it a lot to know why upset him from this. I also hadn’t been in relationship in years so I feel like maybe me and him both didn’t fully understand things the way they should be. and yeah, like the only reason I didn’t tell him about the unsolicited images was because I was disgusted by myself and I didn’t see apoint in sharing it with him, especially since I told him I was sending fake photos to the first guy. I thought he might already know could be sent more so the attention that was receiving/gaming, even though it was fake and I didn’t care for any of it. I know this might make me a bad person and I do regret sending fake photos, but I didn’t want them to send anything to me At the end of the day, I just wanted him to trust me and I felt so guilty for a whole month and everything heating up things I even did before I met him. I started feeling really guilty. I feel like I needed to tell him.

  • I need relationship advice. Bf (ex) doesn't want to date because lack of trust he has for me

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  • No I mean in the community you sent me, like women talk about whatever they want or is it a specific topic?

  • I need relationship advice. Bf (ex) doesn't want to date because lack of trust he has for me

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  • Does anyone talk about anything here?

  • I need relationship advice. Bf (ex) doesn't want to date because lack of trust he has for me

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  • Because I’m broken. I like to make people feel good even if that means putting them first. I’m also a people’s pleaser. I come off as this happy jolly person and soon as I hit home, reality hits. I don’t like talking about my problems because I feel like I don’t make sense or I’m a burden lol. That’s why I am that way. It’s dumb.

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  • Yeah, I don’t blame him. It just didn’t work I guess. Things happen I guess. I will prioritize myself but it is hard sometimes since I lack motivation but I will push.

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  • Thank you so much internet stranger 💕… I am motivated to start, I know I need it, I know I have so much ahead of me and going into my future emotionally more stable and mentally, I will be better for myself and others.

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  • Honestly really scared… the initial phone call (asking me deep questions) was so uncomfortable but so comforting and relieving at the same time so I think it’ll be good! It will be online, they are mailing me a hard copy book designed for their program and every week I will have a call to go over and learn different behaviors and stuff

  • I need relationship advice. Bf (ex) doesn't want to date because lack of trust he has for me

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  • I need relationship advice. Bf (ex) doesn't want to date because lack of trust he has for me

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  • Yeah he does.. I’m accepting it now. I’m too drained to keep trying. He couldn’t trust me and felt I didn’t respect him which is crazy because I showed him more love and respect than I had for myself. But whatever. People only see the bad and suddenly that outweighs all the good people do and people leave. Whatever. I’m tired of fighting. We will be friends, I’ve accepted it. I told him I won’t bring it up anymore. He will always have a place in my heart though. I told him if he thinks he needs to change himself for a relationship then I would be there to support him and I wouldn’t stop him from continuing to live and improve if we’re together. But it all ended the same way it does every time I bring up the topic again, just friends anyways. So yea, I’m drained, I’m tired and I’m done. This is how I am, I can only give/pour so much of myself out until I’m really done. Almost the same happened with my ex, he BROKE me.. manipulated me to get with him again saying he wants to die without me blah blah, we took a break but I realized I can’t go back because of the damage. And I was drained from how he made me feel in those 2-3 weeks. I no longer felt anything.

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  • What rule 5?

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  • That’s a good point. I guess it’s hard for me to settle with everything that has happened but I’m slowly getting it. Thank u.

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  • Lol thanks, why comment if u didn’t even read it?

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  • Ur right. I did let go of someone I had loved because I was in great pain and was probably better for me after all that disrespect. What he did, as ur saying, wasn’t good. It was crazy and it was a manipulative way of trying to get me back. I guess this applies in this scenario as well, he cares about me but wants to let go of the relationship because he’s hurt. So I am better understanding.

    I appreciate all the advice, I really do. I take all of it into consideration and always look back at them. I appreciate you for ur comments and everything you’ve told me. I value everyone’s perspective and feedback, it really has helped me. I won’t lie, I think the closure and validation of the situation from posting it here helps, I know it sounds silly, but hearing people’s thoughts and opinions helps. I don’t have anyone to rlly talk to about this as I only have one friend and she’s probably fed up. But this does help and I do listen to everyone.

    I will start doing what’s best for me. I start therapy in 2 weeks so I’m looking forward but I’m scared. I know it will help me though.

    What should I do? I still want to be friends with him and I know I’ll be capable of doing it without emotions attached, after today, I really see it more clearly. I will respect his space and he will respect mine. We agreed no more sexual stuff since we are only friends now. I regret doing anything anyways because it did only make me feel worse. I think the only scary part is the after**** like when we “heal”, will he remove me? Will I remove him? I think that is making me nauseous thinking about it. But I guess that’s a future problem?

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  • I wouldn’t leave someone if they did. But maybe I’m too forgiving. I believe in change and commitment. I’m loyal to people I respect and care for.

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  • But I hurt him from my actions. How can I get over that? The sound of him crying, the sound of him in pain will never leave my head. I feel horrible. I just want to make things right but I can’t. I feel like it’s all my fault because if I just hadn’t sent them my Instagram for money this wouldn’t have happened. Or told him the first guy or whatever send me stuff (which I obviously didn’t ask for) I was equally as fucked and grossed out, but I should’ve known what I was getting myself into I guess. But I think before, part of me felt like I cheated on him when I know I didn’t because I told him each time I was messaging one for money. I offered passwords, go on my phone, idc. I didn’t feel any way cuz I only ever did things for money. He was jealous I was giving them attention or receiving their attention.. I told him I don’t care for these people (as bad as it sounds)… I know taking money from people isn’t right but they said so I said why not.

    I also fear in the future no one will want me because of my body count or that I’m going to feel as if I need to tell someone EVERYTHIG I’ve done because that’s how I felt after this incident. It felt like everything I have done in my past is illegal and I should be punished for it.

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  • But I’m not a sex worker. Someone said I am before but I’m not. I’m not sending any nudes. Only once I sent FAKE from the internet. . I understand what ur saying. I don’t know how to go about this. Being friends with him is fine and feels good while I’m healing. I know I’ll heal, I healed from things 10x worse. But damn, it hurts so much. I want someone who communicates with me and stays during tough times, not leaves. I feel like my emotional intelligence greatly improved after this. I understand certain things better. When I was with my ex, after he fucked me over. He chased me irl in his car and was screaming out his car to me while I was riding my Bike. I was petrified and was crying the whole time running away. But now I get it. People who love go great measures to get u back. Thats how I feel now.