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canadianchik

@ canadianchik @lemm.ee

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  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • You will and so will I, but we just won’t ever know how long it’ll take :| I can’t imagine myself falling for another guy to be honest. Went out the other day for my friends bday and her bf brought his friend so I don’t third wheel and I t made me miss him 100x more. Also saw someone who resembled him and tried to not cry on the street, I can’t have ruined her bday. But damn it hurt like a bitch.

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • I feel this. When me and him split I tried so hard for 2 months to try and fix things and try to get the relationship back but he said there was no hope and it crushed me. I spent every day of those two months crying and spiralling. And yep, I realized that too, I was wasting my time and effort because if they didn’t want to, then nothing will change :/ and that itself was such a hard pill to swallow. I know you’re afraid but you will either time, I sound hypocritical because I think the same too but I know it’s not true.. it took me 5 years after my last relationship to be able to say “I love you” to him and mean it. I never felt that way, hence why I’m CRUSHED right now. But I’m here if you want to message me and vent about anything you’re thinking of or want to get off of ur chest without judgement.

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • I’m so so sorry for this. It’s nice but probably also sad that you and her family are still close, especially her father. I don’t believe that one can just fall out of love to be honest.. how? :( I feel like that’s normal with being with someone, especially for a long time. I think it’s all about reviving the relationship (doing things you used to do in the beginning, cute planned dates, etc) I know I shouldn’t be talking but I just never understood how someone can fall out of love, especially after so much time and love poured in. Why? :(and that’s how I felt remaining friends with him, I loved him and still do so much but I know I was nothing but a platonic bond to him after the breakup.

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • How are you fighting the urges to text them? Do u mind me asking how you guys split?

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • his message just confuses me and I can’t stop re-reading it. It’s been a few days - almost a week soon I can’t remember, I cleared the convo because I can’t look at it but it’s on my laptop still :/ I can’t make sense out of the message.

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  • I know… the body count thing is dumb but if you read my other posts you’d know why it affects me now :/ I know it doesn’t matter but now I have trauma related to telling someone my bc lol. And I know, it’s always the guys who don’t get much play that I find are always asking the weirdest questions and asking me what type of guys I slept with and their size .. cuck behavior lol

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • this make me cry, thank you. It’s been so hard to see things clearly. I keep asking myself if I’m really that hard to love. The main question I ask myself is “Am I really that easy to give up on?”.. I bent over backwards so much for people but I never receive it back. My heart is always shattered by the people I love the most. Regular friendships I had didn’t hurt when they decided to not speak or whatever, but the ones where I actually love the person deeply kills the fuck out of me. It it seems to always happen to me and it sucks because it takes so long for me to love someone on that level. So when it happens I just know it won’t happen for another while :/

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • I have no motivation anymore for so much.. it’s diminishing. School is a burden to me now, gym I don’t even wanna go. I know I get my off days and some days I feel fine than others but it’s all hitting so hard right now. It all just feels so real (which it is) and it physically makes me start heaving. I used to be in a 3 year relationship before him and I know I can heal but this hurts so much and I only known him for like 6 months ish (end of November).. it hurts so bad. I miss him so fucking much. I just wish me and him can talk about it in person because last time we didn’t speak about our feelings we just cried and he said it’s over and cried more and than laughed it off for a bit and continued crying, we stayed friends but then I decided to stop talking because I felt undervalued and it just sucks so fucking much. His last text just confused me and there’s so much answers I want

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • If they’re the cause or intertwined with “my shit” then they should work through it with me. A relationship is about working together when a problem comes up. I don’t expect a man to chase me for my own issues, gross. I find that a red flag as well and I wouldn’t want to be with someone if that is how my mindset it

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • oh grow up, i meant it as in if the relationship is going through a hard time, its always best to work together and not opt-out whenever u feel slightly overwhelmed. its being emotionally mature

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • hey, im 21 turning 22 in august…. and i know…i ramble too much lol

  • how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?

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  • Tbh, with my last relationship I went crazy. I slept with many guys to fill the void .. I mean.. I did become numb. But I wouldn’t wanna rack up my body count more tbh. I am so touch deprived though. But in pain. So I won’t disagree with this

  • How to get over it and move on without being numbed out?

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  • Trust me, the internet strangers have helped me so much in life compared to therapy and my own friends. I rlly only hang out with one girl but to be honest, I don’t feel like she’d actually there when I talk about things. I notice it’s always her agreeing to what I say but never solid truthful advice. If I said one thing she agrees, if I switch up, she agrees. It’s just not even worth talking about anymore. That’s why I come here, I’m able to speak my mind and all my thoughts with absolutely no shame and I get solid advice from so many perspectives and I love it.

    I got a meet-up app that has many community events and activities/hobbies for people who wanna join but I’m a bit nervous to start conversations with people, I’m not the best at it. But I do wish I was more of a people’s person so I can attend these and have stuff to look forward to.

  • How to get over it and move on without being numbed out?

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  • How does going insane look like? What do I do? I feel both right now and it hurts. It’s hurting more after the closure too

  • How to get over it and move on without being numbed out?

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  • I know. The urge to text just upsets me. Like I got drunk today and all I want to do is cry in his arms because of how much pain I’m in. I want to be okay. I want me and him to be okay. I wish things were different but I know this is real life and I need to carry on. And I know I’m not a princess waiting for my savior but all I wanted in life was someone to want me and put in the effort. I never felt that growing up. The only times was from me and my ex in the years but I’m always just saddened by it.

  • How to get over it and move on without being numbed out?

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  • I know time heals. I was in a relationship 4-5 years ago that lasted basically 3 years, much longer. That one took me 2 years to get over tbh. Still think about it here and there. I don’t have much friends tbh, the one main friend I have I feel like she’s not rlly there u know? Emotionally wise. I try to talk but it’s always the same thing and I feel bad. But I love being alone.

  • How to get over it and move on without being numbed out?

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  • I agree. But he wasn’t emotionally mature. He left when things got slightly hard. Maybe for the better. I forgave him for when he hurt me. But he couldn’t deal with his emotions.

  • How to get over it and move on without being numbed out?

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  • I know. I don’t numb out toxic wise, it’s more so I begin to feel less for people who try to act all “cutesy” with me. I’ve had guys try to pretend they’re sweeet and say things like “I’ll treat u better” but oh those are the ones who end up being the worst lol. I know I don’t deserve anything less ever so I hope to find someone who will give me the world and more. But I’m scared I won’t feel anything for them. I knew someone awhile back and he was very sweet and treated me very kind, kissed my head, my hand, always opened the door for me, dinner dates, etc. but I wasn’t physically attracted to him as much and things just ended. I have been craving physical intimacy as well but I just don’t want to seek that from someone random but it’s so hard to.

  • I need relationship advice. Bf (ex) doesn't want to date because lack of trust he has for me

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  • Yeah, I only felt bad doing the whole fake nude thing but at the end of the day, that one guy didn’t even send money for them anyways. But ya I genuinely had someone who wanted to send money to help me, no pictures, nothing. I felt bad so I am glad I got to apologize. But yeah I don’t know if I want to do it anymore because it does make me feel slightly guilty but the financial position I’m in right now makes it super tempting. But I’m trying to do side hustles but it’s hard. And thank you. I appreciate all your comments on my posts, you helped me a lot and I appreciate you internet stranger 🩵