You have a good heart and are stronger than you think.

Some of your instincts are exactly right, while some are a little off. You're right about finding better opportunities to meet like minded people in the city. Parts of Ohio are pretty progressive and open minded.

There are women who would love to get to know you, and that will only improve over time. As people get older and wiser, the stereotypical roles become less and less important, and what ends up mattering is having a caring partner who is capable of growth. That's you.

Last, yes, there are some people who might wish to do violence to anyone who is different. However, they tend to be cowards and opportunists and there are not that many of them. The point of terrorism is to make people afraid, because even though it's unlikely for any one person to be a victim, everyone feels like they could potentially be a victim.

It is extremely unlikely that you will personally be targeted with deadly violence just for who you are. It's even more unlikely to happen multiple times. The best thing you can do to protect yourself is to have situational awareness.