I care about music. I look for new stuff I enjoy. I listen to albums. I think about the lyrics. I see bands live when they tour. Sometimes I make mixes with a theme.
I used to ask people sometimes if they made mixes, and if so where they fell on the spectrum of "these are some songs I like" and "each songs inclusion and ordering has been carefully considered".
I don't just hit shuffle or let an algorithm wander through music. Songs are like spells and different tunes evoke different feelings.
I don't relate to people when they say they like "all kinds of music" or "I listen to a dozen new songs every day". That's just not enough time spent with those new songs to form any sort of bond, for me.
I only have a couple friends who have what I call an interoperable relationship with music. It's not that we like the same music, but that the music we each like, we like in a mutually comprehensible way. Like I can say to my friend, "oh this song could go right next to that song because xyz ", and they'll be like "oh that's good. abc fits in with them, too".
My other friends, talking about music, at most I get a "cool song, bro".
Conservatism, probably. It's cruel and often self destructive.
That humans (all of us) are such emotional creatures and that we do often can't rise above it. You tell someone a fact they don't like and the brain just shuts that down.
I'm still good friends with two of the people I dated non monogamously. They're good people. Not all the matches were strictly better- there are a lot of theater kids and burning-man types, and that's almost never my type. A lot of lawyers too, surprisingly, but I think some kinds of lawyers are super hot so that worked out.
100% agree that people aren't taught how to be clear about their needs, and the common problems of guesswork and assumptions. Non-monogamy practically requires you actually talk about what you're aiming for.
Monogamy also often imports some unhealthy behaviors, like just assuming you have full access to your partner all the time. With non monogamy you typically have to be more intentional about plans and time together, and I think that makes for a better relationship.
I was in a monogamous relationship and had feelings for someone else. I didn't want to cheat, but it felt wrong I couldn't do anything with this other person that I felt chemistry with. I knew I wouldn't be upset if my partner had other people so long as she also spent time with me. After that relationship ended (for other reasons) I decided not to put myself in the same situation.
Ironically, pursuing non monogamy means there are far fewer people to date. I was getting a viable match like once a month or so, maybe less. When I switched back to monogamy as an option, it was like 1d4-1 a week.
It's debt in the sense of obligation, not literal finance. If we get more volume, we're going to be obligated to change this so it does something smarter than dumping output to a csv on disk. For now it's fine, even if it's annoying to scp and parse the files every time you want to see something.
When we’re constantly ‘killing time’ on our phones/screens
Reminded me of that quote from House of Leaves
Who has never killed an hour? Not casually or without thought, but carefully: a premeditated murder of minutes. The violence comes from a combination of giving up, not caring, and a resignation that getting past it is all you can hope to accomplish. So you kill the hour. You do not work, you do not read, you do not daydream. If you sleep it is not because you need to sleep. And when at last it is over, there is no evidence: no weapon, no blood, and no body. The only clue might be the shadows beneath your eyes or a terribly thin line near the corner of your mouth indicating something has been suffered, that in the privacy of your life you have lost something and the loss is too empty to share.
After a particularly potent evening of farts, someone whose identity I will protect had their ass dubbed "the gates of hell". I can imagine this hanging in their bathroom.
Forums were cool. They often had their own culture and in-jokes. People would become well-known on the forum. There's a couple names I recognize on here, but it's mostly transient. (On the other hand, I've probably had a vicious argument with someone and then a nice chat with them later, without realizing it was the same person).
Most internet users seem bland, and just congeal onto youtube, discord, twitch, and other nightmares.
There was a website where users could request something or other, like a PDF report. Users had a limited number of tokens per month.
The client would make a call to the backend and say how many tokens it was spending. The backend would then update their total, make the PDF, and send it.
Except this is stupid. First of all, if you told it you were spending -1 tokens, it would happily accept this and give you a free token along with your report.
Second of all, why is the client sending that at all? The client should just ask and the backend should figure out if they have enough credit or not.
The other day I accidentally looked at YouTube without adblock, without history off, and it was a nightmare. Just AI slop and rage bait. Absolute trash.
I pretty much only use YouTube for music and very specific clips. It's a bad place.
People are being ground up by capitalism and it's easier to just look at tiktok or play Baldur's gate than actually engage with a messy person.
I try to stay in touch with people but it's hard. I'm also kind of an insufferable asshole, and I think some people leave because they're tired of "capitalism sucks" coming up
Of course people are using AI. It's the default behavior of Google, the most popular web search. It confidently spits out falsehoods. This is not an improvement.
And there are definitely people "needing to convince others to use the tools.". Microsoft and Google et al are made of people. They're running ads to get people to adopt it.
Buying stuff online and email are useful stuff in ways LLMs can only dream of. It is a technology nowhere near as good as its hype.
Furthermore , "the general public likes it" is a dubious metric for quality. People like all sorts of garbage. Heroin has its fans. I'm sure it'd have even more if it was free and highly advertised. Is that enough to prove it's good? No. Other factors such as harm and accuracy matter, too.
This is very heteronormative and gender binaried. Queer people exist and date.
That said, anecdotally, from the handful of women I've talked about this with: many don't like making first moves on these apps.
Using dating apps is a skill, and if you haven't been practicing sending messages you're going to be bad at it. The vast majority of first messages I got from women were "hey". Trash tier. Probably because they just haven't done it very often.
It seems to mean people who don't consume AI content not use AI tools.
My hypothesis is it's a term coined by pro-AI people to make AI-skeptics sound bad. Vegans are one of the most hated groups of people, so associating people who don't use AI with them is a huge win for pro-ai forces.
Side note: do-gooder derogation ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Do-gooder_derogation ) is one of the saddest moves you can pull. If you find yourself lashing out at someone because they're doing something good (eg: biking instead of driving, abstaining from meat) please reevaluate. Sit with your feelings if you have to.
I care about music. I look for new stuff I enjoy. I listen to albums. I think about the lyrics. I see bands live when they tour. Sometimes I make mixes with a theme.
I used to ask people sometimes if they made mixes, and if so where they fell on the spectrum of "these are some songs I like" and "each songs inclusion and ordering has been carefully considered".
I don't just hit shuffle or let an algorithm wander through music. Songs are like spells and different tunes evoke different feelings.
I don't relate to people when they say they like "all kinds of music" or "I listen to a dozen new songs every day". That's just not enough time spent with those new songs to form any sort of bond, for me.
I only have a couple friends who have what I call an interoperable relationship with music. It's not that we like the same music, but that the music we each like, we like in a mutually comprehensible way. Like I can say to my friend, "oh this song could go right next to that song because xyz ", and they'll be like "oh that's good. abc fits in with them, too".
My other friends, talking about music, at most I get a "cool song, bro".