Congrats on 90 days!! Huge fucking milestone, well done! When FOMO kicks in, force yourself to think about low points you've had with the fire water - it's not worth it - plus there is a huge market opening up for non-alcoholic drinks, so when you feel a bit more resilient that's an option to socialize, YMMV.
In terms of getting out, I whole-hearterdly agree with the other commenter with volunteering. I would further suggest doing something physical, trash cleanups, running/biking club, etc. For me, getting my heart pounding and sweat pouring vanquishes any anxiety I might have had entering the situation or generally.
I was kinda going down the list of more involved to least, but def they have game/trivia nights at most local pubs, plus a bunch of random events that if you participate in you are going to meet people.
Yeah not bad, I'm sure you could use federated login to allow the users' personal google acct to hit the maps api and pull reviews. But yelp/google/amzn/etc all manipulate ratings and reviews behind the scenes without any transparency which is a deeper problem and why I am always critical of reviews in general. But like I said, if you and I created an OSS review plugin/service for use in OSS maps, it wouldn't be long before it was corrupted in some regard... somehow. Cynical I know but the review data is just so damn JUICY to everyone.
I keep telling my s/o we need a sister wife and she keeps slapping me. That's what dating is to me now.
I've said this a bunch here and elsewhere but it bears repeating - get out there in spaces where you are forced to interact with others: rockclimbing gym, mma/martial arts gym, cooking classes (either free at the library or paid at Le' Bon' Too' Expensive'), social spaces for vices like hookah bars or bar bars (come on green lounges already!!!!).
Forced interaction where hooking up is not expected is where the real hooking up takes place. Get out there and have fun and forget about (pussy/dick/w/e) for a few weeks and it will magically start coming into your life.
No let me apologize I was overly harsh on that criticism.
yeah there really isn’t a way around reviews
I think it's just too valuable to stay open and free, someone will always want to monetize (from the business, the reviewers, the 'pop up' order on the map, etc)
I too have found myself in the same boat, especially because Google Maps is probably (for my life) their best product. I was in the early contributor beta and have been pretty consistent in leaving reviews over the last 10+ years (although the offers for comp'd dinners have disappeared) - I've made an effort to be better, I have CoMaps on my phone, and I've started contributing to OSM. I think what would really seal the deal for me to shift completely would be integrated reviews. As you said, google and yelp have the market cornered for that, but there is no transparency.
edit: that transit app website is the worst marketer crap I have ever stepped in, scrolled so many fucking pages of artistic empty-words and vision speak and still have NO FUCKING CLUE what the app does. JFC.
Most relationships I've had in my life, both platonic and sexual, just sort of 'clicked.' I never found myself wondering about what was going on, most effort was recipricated without much thought. I would just move on. She directly communicated she needed space, she's not reaching out - I think the writing is on the wall.
How small are we talking? I moved from a large city (Ft. Lauderdale, FL 185k people) to an insanley large city (Brooklyn, NY 2.6 million) then as a sort of whip lash decided I wanted rural living so I took my RV to an area I was thinking of buying a few acres in (Mossyrock, WA ~1000 people) and plopped for a few months. It was not for me. Real "one coffee shop, one restaraunt, one bar" type place and while I loved it initially, the pain-in-the ass of day to day living was too much. Think 20 min drives to the closest gas station, 45 min drives to the nearest large grocer.
After moving around the area quite a bit, I landed on a place with ~35k people and to me, after two years, I am still loving it. Feels like small town rural living but downtown is a 10 min drive away with a bunch of eateries, bars, nightlife, etc.
Pros of 'smaller' town living (after trying a few areas that passed the vibe check):
Community. With everything going on in the world right now it feels like you are powerless. Shrinking the scope of your action to your neighbors and your immediate area empowers you to make change in a way you've never felt before. You can participate and have direct impact in all sorts of ways, from city council meetings, to improvement projects, to just participating in a local farmers market.
Safety. Some people may see this as a negative, and I guess it could be depending on how invasive your direct neighbors are lol, but for me on 5 acres it's been incredible. Everyone knows if something is amiss and are not afraid to 'ring the alarm' as it were. When I first bought the property I was parking along the road as it was very overgrown, countless people stopped and asked if I needed help with the car (assuming I had broken down) then proceeded to introduce themselves and have met a ton of people in this way.
Affordability. Land and housing is cheaper, groceries stay the same (assuming you are near a main interstate). You can buy a house for the price of an apartment in a large city.
Quiet. Being in a large city is being in the belly of the beast. The gears are turning all night long. With smaller city living, it's the opposite, peace and quiet, take a deep breath and relax. Night life and night owls still exist, but you have to go hunt them down.
Less Police Presence. Crime rates drop inordinately as the population decreases, and with that, you see a lot less "boys in blue" - furthermore, because it's usually just a few people, you get to know them and have less anxiety with interactions.
Gardens and Greenery. Speaks for itself, less population density == less concrete paradise == more biodiversity.
Cons:
Commute. If you don't have a WFH gig, most smaller cities will not have an abundance of the type of work you do. You'll most likely have a commute so somewhere with light rail might be awesome for you if that's the case.
Gentrification. Depending on where you come from and where you are moving to, you might be seen as a sort of 'colonizer.' I don't get that sneer but I did get several people making sure I was not coming from California LOL.
Slower Pace. In FL it's known colloquially as "Cuban Time" basically meaning that time estimates should be taken with a grain of salt. The pace of the life is slower in a small town and you might find services taking forever to be completed. If you can relax and go with the flow though, it shouldn't be too much of an issue.
Ok this turned into an essay, this new coffee bean smacks. Best of luck!
Congrats on 90 days!! Huge fucking milestone, well done! When FOMO kicks in, force yourself to think about low points you've had with the fire water - it's not worth it - plus there is a huge market opening up for non-alcoholic drinks, so when you feel a bit more resilient that's an option to socialize, YMMV.
In terms of getting out, I whole-hearterdly agree with the other commenter with volunteering. I would further suggest doing something physical, trash cleanups, running/biking club, etc. For me, getting my heart pounding and sweat pouring vanquishes any anxiety I might have had entering the situation or generally.
Best of luck!