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i have no advice about learning music but as far as reading things on paper/white backgrounds, it night be worth trying to change the colors of the sheet music or somehow add visual stimulation, maybe using some kind of app.

sorry this is too much interaction for me. can't read your reply. hope it works out!

that really sucks. sorry it didn't turn out in a way that matches your lived experience.

are you by chance also high IQ or INFJ?

i read and heard in autism podcasts that people with certain above average perception sometimes begun masking so well and from such an early age that it seems to others (and sometimes to themselves) that the mask is part is their core nature, as opposed to simply second nature. this is part of the effects of 2E ("twice exceptionality"; the name is problematic, try not to fixate on it)

TL;DR - even if you're both Neurodivergent, you each have different neurotypes with actually different needs and brain workings. if you really can't find meaning and purpose in please/thanks/etc, your partner's need to receive such social niceties(or appreciation in a different form) is just as valid. both things can be true, and it's possible to find workarounds if you both examine what is at the root of those needs. it often comes down to figuring out how to show care daily in some way that is both sincere and is perceivable by the other person.

example: my partner likes origami. i don't like it that much but I'm good enough at it that they find it impressive. so when i can, i give them an origami flower or animal and they feel a lot of affection from me through that.

about being called an abuser, there definitely are autistic abusers and non-autistic abusers, and autistic people who are misunderstood as having abusive intent.

just yesterday i was listening to the Divergent Conversations podcast (old episode) and they were taking about how certain autistic people who are NOT narcissistic can be mistakenly called narcissistic by others and their behavior is received as abuse by others.

the gist is that some autistic people are not particularly introspective and not curious about their own inner world, hence not curious and inquisitive about others' inner world and feelings. this is not inherently wrong or cruel by itself. this doesn't mean the person doesn't have feelings. we all express and discuss feelings in different ways, which makes it sometimes don't look like feelings at all to others' eyes or our own.

the problem is when it doesn't match the emotional interaction styles and attachment styles of other people we care about.

because the less curious person can't, at the time, take steps in understanding and fulfilling their partner's emotional needs, the partner end up having to live in the less curious partner's pov reality which is a non-native environment for them. because it contradicts their other experiences and relational environments, it can have an effect like gaslighting. ways to fulfill the needs can be learned and the specific forms of filling the needs can often be negotiated.

the confusion with abusive/narcissistic is that the abused partner is also forced to live in a "hostile" reality which gaslights their lived experience.

so it's important to acknowledge the other person has needs that we can't fulfill necessarily in the default way society tells us or the way that seems easiest/most direct for the person. this is true in most relationships, and in both directions, partner a<->partner b. but the needs usually can be fulfilled in another way. or depending on what it is, it can be fulfilled by friendships/family.

regarding please/thanks specifically, i think a perceived lack of appreciation/consideration (which this words are generally associated to) can trigger RSD. if you don't know that term, definitely look it up. it can be a HUUUUUGE part of ADHD. in the 1960s it was called "atypical depression" or sth like that because they didn't yet really know what ADHD was.

oh yeah this is a fantastic language learning tool

(although it can bring up problems with tonal languages like Vietnamese, Thai, Mandarin, Cantonese, etc where the lyrics often abandon the words' inherent tones and follow the song melody instead. )

crunchy was criminal since the get go. their earliest releases were unauthorized reposts of fansubs, for which they already charged subscription fees!

so they started their existence by pirating while making money through stealing fansubbers' (volunteer btw) work.

people do whatever they have to do to feel safe. there's no problem with that.

maybe you deserve more trust and autonomy than your parents are giving you. if the reason for asking your grades is "dad wants a treat", it sounds like they are asking for their own pleasure, not out of concern for you.

so maybe it's a really good thing that you're lying to them to make space for yourself to feel emotionally safe.

every one deserves to feel safe, no matter if the feelings of danger are caused by parents or strangers.

heh the greatest trick of the devil was to convince people that he doesn't ex... wait.....

ads are the.....?

shhhh don't say it out loud! they'll come after you!

yeah, no doubt, it's not being subsidized.

low income privacy supporters don't want it subsidized either.

at the same time, they are in fact excluded from this model of phone.

in the universe of possibilities, it's possible to have an affordable phone with privacy intact that serves more communities, at some time in the past or future.

but not from murena, not right now.

tl;dr no duh.

it's not.

I'm not blaming Fairphone nor Murena. the economy everywhere is not helping make things cheaper.

it doesn't change the truth that right now, privacy is for the rich.

1200€???

ok.... i guess privacy is only for the rich

edit: privacy via this phone model is only for the rich. you nitpickers happy now?

only thing in the universe/multiverse that is 100% certain....

is humans overestimating certainty.

the OP explicitly said no need for git

thanks for informing of that rumor.

i have to hope for this too, since i am now regretting my choice of Graphene OS+pixel over fairphone.

however, i am very pessimistic about fairphone's ability to source a secure SOC that would satisfy the Graphene OS team at a financially/eco'ly sustainable price point. at least within the next five years.

if GOS updates turn out to be impossible after the android changes, 5 years is a very long time to wait while using a decreasingly secure device.

does it work across LAN or p2p Bluetooth without WAN like Briar, Cwtch, etc?

how can you tell which are a , b , c , d? the choice letters all look like Kirby, vomit, etc 🤣

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ADHD and Piano?

The bank wins again

The bank wins again

Any relationship Advice?

Song Lyrics... Does any app (preferably FOSS) actually work on Android?

Crunchyroll Faces Cancelation: Why Anime Fans Are Choosing Piracy After Latest Update

Frequent Lying

Am I resistant to advertisements, or is it all mirage?

Murena launches phone with open-source /e/OS and privacy focus (hardware kill switch)

Murena launches phone with open-source /e/OS and privacy focus (hardware kill switch)

Murena launches phone with open-source /e/OS and privacy focus (hardware kill switch)

Murena launches phone with open-source /e/OS and privacy focus (hardware kill switch)

Murena launches phone with open-source /e/OS and privacy focus (hardware kill switch)

Piracy on campus WiFi

Alternative to github for hosting portfolio pieces, personal projects, etc. ?

Phone Recommendation

A decentralized end-to-end encrypted chat app

Discover Hidden Gems: Open-Source Software You Should Know About

US Privacy Focused Carrier Cape.co

I take things literally!!!

hypothetical: after Google sells Chrome, new owner f***s up, users flee to other browsers. Can Firefox step up and attract+keep a significant qty of users?

Multilingual people all must have experienced YouTube's f**kery with auto translation. Still no workaround?

Gboard safe to use with network permission revoked?

correction: Briar chat desktop client "expired". No update timeline yet. (was: Briar chat desktop client "expired". Still an active project?)