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throwawaysalami

@ throwawaysalami @lemm.ee

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  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • If I’m interpreting what you’re saying correctly, ‘get serious’ was just used to mean ‘the sexy time is about to happen’ , no?

    Yeah, this is 100% what I meant, when sexy time is about to happen. It would be pretty bad if the relationship got serious and then tell them you're just in it for the sex. 😅

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • Sort these sentences out for yourself.

    You can like someone whilst still only wanting one thing to do with them. I guess it's about how much you value friendship in general.

    Have you considered you do have interest in friendship and that’s intimidating?

    Well I don't have interest in friendship because it would feel like a drag.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • Not sure if you’re serious - but thank you, if you are.

    I honestly am, I appreciate well written English.

    If you’re ‘reserved’ and plan on telling them before you have sex with them, ok - I can acknowledge that that isn’t cowardly.

    Yes, I do always tell them before hand. But usually I wait for that until things start to get serious. However I'll probably have to tell her sooner rather than later.

    Edit: What I mean by 'get serious', is the initial sign of her showing sexual interest back.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • No. No the only reason it would be difficult is because you aren’t upfront about it. Cowardly behavior to service a vice.

    Well, one may view reservation as cowardice. The other may view it as sensible. Given how it's at odds with looking like a creep.

    Cowardly behavior to service a vice.

    By the by, this sentence is brilliant, very nice turn of phrase. I'm keeping this one.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • No, it is not. I have never cajoled nor coaxed her to do anything. I never vowed for any long term relationship, platonic or otherwise. I simply have amicable talks with her in the hopes it might kindle a spark. And clearly it has not, so I'm moving on.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • I asked her about her day, she told me it wasn't going so well. I asked why, she replied it had to do with stress. So I followed up with whether she struggled with that often. And then she spilled her beans.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • I mean, you gotta make bread somehow... This is the only way I know how. I show interest in the person and see if they like me back. If they don't, I leave it at that. I will concur it might be difficult for the other party to distinguish my intentions.

    But I will be honest with her. I will encourage her to seek help and tell her how I feel about us.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • I'm good at talking to people. I basically talk with whomever, whensoever I feel like it. So yes I actually have people in my life I don't even like but they like me back.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • You open this post saying you like her, you carry on showing us your concerns, but at the end you’re in just for sex- this is confusing.

    I mean, she is nice and normally I'd strike up a conversation when I see her (but I'm going to stop doing that). But just because I'm only interested in having sex with her doesn't mean I only view her in an object sort of way. I'm not saying you were implying this specifically, btw. But I hope this helps clear it up a little.

    If I were in your shoes, I’d encourage her to get professional help, and I’d run away.

    I am probably going to do this.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • This particular response shows more human emotion that your formaliser ever could (at least as of now).

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • I get that it's not my responsibility to make her happy. But isn't there like a soft way of telling her I'm letting this ship sail on without me?

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • and my AI formaliser helped me to be more passionate

    It actually very much did the opposite. Because now there is no actual passion behind it. None, whatsoever.

  • I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

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  • Fuck you very much, ChatGPT.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    throwawaysalami @lemm.ee

    I got more than I bargained for, how do I fix? TW: suicide

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    throwawaysalami @lemm.ee

    How to properly flirt?

  • How do people develop feelings for someone?

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  • I mean, I'll take what I can get (short term, long term). As I said I have never had any sort of relationship to speak of so I wouldn't really know. But casual sex would be best for me as things are now.

  • How do people develop feelings for someone?

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  • Sorta, I don't really care that much for the relationship part. I mean, if I like the girl and she wants to make it official I'll play ball, ya know.

  • How do people develop feelings for someone?

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  • but it’s a place to start building a framework for understanding.

    It sure is! Thank you, this is honestly very helpful and intuitive! They way I got confused by the last comment was because I was like: "But I'm already talking friendly with them, that's like the one thing I'm good at."

  • How do people develop feelings for someone?

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  • but then what is your actual challenge here?

    I don't know, that's a good question. How to convey that to the other person, I guess?

  • How do people develop feelings for someone?

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  • Okay, clearly you're at the end of your rope here. And I thank you for sticking around for as long as you could.

  • How do people develop feelings for someone?

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  • What about if you don't want anything too serious?

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    throwawaysalami @lemm.ee

    How do people develop feelings for someone?

  • Autism @lemmy.world
    throwawaysalami @lemm.ee

    This happens to me way more often than it should.

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml
    throwawaysalami @lemm.ee

    I'm going to a dance party for the first time. I'm scared of becoming a fly on the wall. What can/should I do if this happens? Edit: It was a ton of fun. Thank you all for submitting your thoughts