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LadyAutumn

@ LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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2 yr. ago

Trans woman - 10 years HRT

Intersectional feminist

Queer anarchist

  • Dude read the rules of woman only community and decided to post anyway

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  • What community is that?

  • This Spiral-Obsessed AI 'Cult' Spreads Mystical Delusions Through Chatbots

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  • Providing the general public with convincing text generation has been an absolute unmitigated disaster for humanity.

  • [Q & Vent] How to cope with pregnancy dysphoria?

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  • I commented this on a previous post about pregnancy dysphoria. Still holds true to how i feel,

    I've mostly made peace with the fact that it will never happen. It hurts very badly sometimes but it is what it is. I really want to be a mom one day, and when I am able to I will love my children with all my heart. For me, being a mom is my life's dream. I wish I could conceive my own children but, I can't. Someday it will be a reality for women like us but it's not there yet and I'm really not holding out any hope that it will be within my life time. Even if it does happen in my lifetime I don't want to spend my life waiting for something that is unlikely to ever happen for me. Focusing on how ultimately being a mom itself is my dream has helped me cope. Because that is something I can work towards today.

    I really strongly empathize with this pain though. I've cried myself to sleep over it many times. I hope you're able to find what helps make it easier for you.

  • Bathroom etiquette question

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  • I generally dont ask if anyone wants to come with. If anyone has to go I feel like they usually will be like oh I have to go too and then come along. Sometimes I will ask close friends if they have to go too. Especially if the bathrooms are far from where we're sitting / dancing.

    If you also have to go at the same time yeah for sure you can be like oh ill come with i have to go too.

    I do wait if we're both going to the bathroom at the same time. Usually just stand by the door after I wash my hands. But it depends how well I know the person ig and if we had been talking. Some women are super chatty and will talk to you the whole time haha but I feel like most of us aren't. It's just nice to group up.

  • NSFW

    Had a date with a heterosexual man for the first time. He had a hard-on when we cuddled. It felt strangely validating.

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  • I cannot wrap my head around where this was coming from or how you could possibly believe this was supportive. She made a post about a validating experience with a date, and you immediately thought to counter her validation? How tf is that supportive

  • First post, first time going out with fem clothes

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  • Super cute! Hope you have a lovely day 😊

  • How do you kick the Reddit habit?

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  • By going and observing you are implicitly endorsing that there is some value in what they do there. You might ideologically disagree, but even by observing it you're showing that what they do is worth observing.

    I use a similar logic with fascists. Its not a bad thing to be informed on how fascists and terfs think. As a community we can best protect ourselves by understanding who seeks to attack us and defending ourselves accordingly. Thats one of the reasons communities like blahaj.zone are so important. No corporations can come here, and terfs and fascists are banned wherever they appear.

    There is nothing of value in what happens in that community. TERFs dont hate us because they have a rational framework of disagreement with us, they hate us because we are trans. They despise that very core of who we are. It's not like there are any grounds for discussion with them. I can't convince someone who hates trans people that trans people do not deserve hate. They weren't convinced to begin with. They hated people who are different from them, people who do not fit into the boundaries of sexuality and gender they see as sacred. There is nothing to be gained from speaking with them. There is nothing to be gained from debating them. There is nothing to be gained from paying attention to them. I can tell you right now what you will find there. You already know what you will find there yourself. It serves nothing to look. You're only inflicting actual real psychological harm on yourself by going there, and giving them attention only feeds their desire to cause you pain. They hate us. They want to call us slurs to our faces to make us feel bad about ourselves. They delight in our suffering. They know that trans people go there, that is ostensibly the point, and they love that, they love that trans people go to that community and suffer real psychological harm from engaging with them.

    Ive argued with many a terf and transphobe in my day. Along with loads of racists and misogynists and homophobes and fascists. I spent a significant part of my early 20s arguing with them. And I'll be honest and tell you that frequently engaging with and seeing and hearing the things they say hurt me and traumatized me on deep foundational levels that I am still working to heal from. It is categorically not worth it. It's not worth it. They dont care what you think, they want you to read what they say and be in pain because of it.

    You have to respect yourself enough to stop. I know that sounds harsh, and I genuinely dont mean to be harsh. It just comes down to that. You are worth more than a source of pain for ravenous bigots. You dont deserve to be subjected to that every day. The world is full of joy too. Trans joy is real. I find my time far better spent engaging with trans solidarity and joy. You should block the site and move on. The temptation fades with time. You have to choose to look at better things.

  • Spread trans joy, not trans hate!

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  • What a cute and meaningful story. Those moments of feeling affirmed and understood are so important. It can be so hard to feel welcome to womanhood.

  • I want to be pregnant. That is all.

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  • Apology accepted. I appreciate you taking the time to respond and say that.

  • I want to be pregnant. That is all.

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  • I dont understand why you felt the need to add the first part, as though anyone struggling with infertility is unaware of how difficult it is.

  • I want to be pregnant. That is all.

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  • Unfortunately the human mind isn't rational in this way. Otherwise no one would ever choose to get pregnant.

  • I want to be pregnant. That is all.

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  • I've mostly made peace with the fact that it will never happen. It hurts very badly sometimes but it is what it is. I really want to be a mom one day, and when I am able to I will love my children with all my heart. For me, being a mom is my life's dream. I wish I could conceive my own children but, I can't. Someday it will be a reality for women like us but it's not there yet and I'm really not holding out any hope that it will be within my life time. Even if it does happen in my lifetime I don't want to spend my life waiting for something that is unlikely to ever happen for me. Focusing on how ultimately being a mom itself is my dream has helped me cope. Because that is something I can work towards today.

    I really strongly empathize with this pain though. I've cried myself to sleep over it many times. I hope you're able to find what helps make it easier for you.

  • you can't make the system better by voting. our rights were taken by force, not given to us willingly.

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  • We do agree. I only said anything in the first place because I didn't really see this post as advocating an anti-voting position. I would see anti-voting agitation as more along the lines of "Do not vote. Voting itself is harmful." As opposed to "voting doesn't work" or "voting is ineffective" which I see as more along the lines of criticism of electoral democracy and agitation for collective action.

  • you can't make the system better by voting. our rights were taken by force, not given to us willingly.

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  • Voting is fine as long as you are aware that it does nothing to materially prevent fascism. It can't hurt anything to write something on a piece of paper. But the problem isnt really people like you. Its liberals who believe that voting is the be all end all of their political responsibility.

    Electoral democracy is ultimately a misdirection. Capitalists are the actual sources of political power in western democracies. They unfortunately have a vested interest in the state getting more fascist and actually have the power to effect that change. So long as everyone looks down at the ballot box and then goes home to do nothing of material difference for the next 4 years, fascists will only continue to gain ground until they can do away with the misdirection of electoralism entirely.

    Voting cannot be the only thing you do. Or you are effectively doing nothing. Which you seem to understand, but liberals do not. They actually want all other forms of political action banned. Because liberals ultimately protect capitalists, who are the real sources of political power. Leftist political action is a threat to capitalists. Thusly, liberals condemn it and recommend voting instead.

  • flohmarkt a federated alternative to ebay and facebook marketplace

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  • I have no clue where Facebook marketplace servers are. That has never been relevant to me. Kijiji is a popular online marketplace in Canada, and it let's you pick location or have it choose automatically based on your location.

    This may be a simple matter of European marketplaces and North American ones having fundamentally different approaches.

  • What is your internet White-Whale?

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  • Back in the mid 2000s I made a fan website dedicated to my favorite game character, kirby, on one of those "build your own website" type sites. I remember I was like 8 and working on it quite a lot. The site was aimed at like kids / teenagers I think. Can't remember what it was called to save my life. It definitely does not still exist, but the idea is that I could somehow find the site I made in a backup somewhere. Ive done some pretty deliberate searching over the years but still cant remember what the site builder/hoster was called. Something that started with a P, or had a P in the name, maybe?

  • should I do diy?

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  • There are positives and negatives to DIY. This website has good info. It has never been more feasible to access DIY and a lot of good resources and groups exist to help you figure it out.

    Make sure to focus on suppliers that are reputable and follow safe injection practices. There are websites around that keep track of suppliers and availability. They really only take payment in crypto, but most suppliers have guides on getting the crypto and paying them.

  • What body changes would y'all want in a trans humanist sci-fi future?

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  • If we are talking like. Any conceivable body modification is possible, then I'd like to be able to conceive my own children and undo the effects of testosterone on my vocal chords. Ive grown pretty attached to my body after getting bottom surgery 2 years ago. There's not a lot else I'd like to change about it. I'm tall and my hands and feet are sorta big. My shoulders are sorta wide. But I dont mind that stuff as much. I think I'm pretty even with those things.

    So I guess I'd mostly have the same body I already do have. But I wouldn't turn down fancy nanobots that could like. Prevent cancer and stuff. I think that'd be pretty sweet. Getting breast cancer is a very real fear of mine, so the idea of a world where that doesnt exist anymore is pretty significant to me.

  • Kamala Harris Says She Has “Concerns” About Trans Student Athletes

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  • Please read the rules of the community before posting. If you're banned and wondering why,

    Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.

    Yes that includes any kind of debate. This is not the community for any form of that.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    The executive orders passed yesterday are a declaration of transgender inhumanity. More is coming. We must resist. We must defend our most vulnerable. They cannot take our community away from us.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    A growing wave of transphobia and misogyny is building online. We all need to prepare ourselves for a rapidly changing status quo. You are not alone.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    This is one of the worst mornings of my entire life. I'm so sorry for everyone waking up in a fascist America today. This community is for you.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Trying to psych myself up to go swimsuit shopping this Friday 🙃 I promised myself this year I'd finally do it but I am sorta nervous.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    META

    Just a little check-in post. How's everyone's week going? :)

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    META

    Format for requesting engagement has been finalized.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    META

    As of now we are allowing posters to request engagement from specific groups of people (eg. gender diverse people)

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    How's everyone's week going thus far? :) Little bit of a pre-holiday check in and discussion.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Considering Vocal Feminization Glottoplasty, curious what others have heard or experienced themselves about vocal fem surgery in general.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Meta

    As of today transfem has a new moderator! :)

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Casual

    Happy friday everyone! :) tell me about your week!

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    Meta

    2K subscribers, growing concerns over transphobia, future moderation issues

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    How's everyone's Monday going? Anyone have any moments of euphoria today?

  • Jerboa @lemmy.ml
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Feature request - swipe from left to exit a post.

  • Jerboa @lemmy.ml
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Would it be possible to have Jerboa remember how you previously sorted a community?

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    New resources added to the sidebar. Please let me know of any others you believe should be listed and I will consider them.

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Hello everyone!

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    Federal judge blocks most of Indiana's ban on gender-affirming care for minors

    www.pbs.org /newshour/politics/federal-judge-blocks-most-of-indianas-ban-on-gender-affirming-care-for-minors
  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    The name of the community has been changed per the results of the poll, from here on out this community is the Transfem community!

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    This summer I'm challenging myself to not wear a hoodie every time I leave the house 😅