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compostgoblin

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  • I'm like 99% sure I'm a trans woman... now what?

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  • Yep, exactly! I don’t want to assume they’re up for it and then be a burden, or ask for something that isn’t a fair request of someone I don’t really know.

    There is also a local resource center that has a trans peer support group that I might check out too

  • What to use instead of gmail?

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  • Ding ding! After the Proton fiasco, I got a domain and have started moving my accounts to that email, which connects to Tuta

  • How did you know you were trans?

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  • Would you like to experiment with people using she/her pronouns?

    I think so? I’ve used he/they for a while, but people tend to just go with the ‘he’, which feels less and less like me. And it reminds me that most everyone sees me as male, as little as I identify with that. I just need someone I can trust to try them out with without judgment

    Would you like to get feminising hormones?

    Possibly? It feels like a big commitment though, and I might need to look into having sperm preserved first, since my wife and I do want kids. The effects sound mostly like things I want, but it feels like a “point of no return“ that I don’t know if I’m ready for yet

    Would you like to present feminine more often?

    100%. My hair is getting pretty long, and I really like having my nails painted. I started shaving my chest, and I want to start shaving my legs and buy some women’s clothes, like skirts and tank tops. And I want to get my earlobes pierced soon to start wearing earrings (in addition to the cartilage piercings i already have). I already get pretty self conscious when I go to work just with long hair and painted nails though. It’s a more conservative field (engineering) so I feel very much like people are looking at me, or I’m the odd one out, and I get nervous about how much I’m pushing the boundaries of what people expect me to be like.

    I think I’m going to keep doing more to present more feminine, especially at home, and probably have some conversations with my wife about trying out new pronouns a little.

    Thank you for all the advice, I appreciate it :)

  • How did you know you were trans?

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  • For most of my life I identified as "just a regular dude... unfortunately".

    I felt that way for a long time (and still do sometimes). Being raised in a subculture that so heavily reinforces gender roles, it took a long time for me to understand the breadth of people’s gender experiences.

    You might like to reflect some more on what this implies about your gender.

    I define will, and fortunately, I have therapy this weekend. My therapist has been great about helping me work out some of my gender feelings in a positive and non-judgmental way

    And thank you for recommending the sidebar! I’m usually on mobile, so I forget sidebars are a thing, I’ll check out the resources there

  • How did you know you were trans?

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  • Sounds like a great therapist, I’m glad you found her!

  • How did you know you were trans?

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  • It’s funny, I feel somewhat the opposite - I think I might prefer a female body over my current male one, but I don’t have any particular issue with having a dick

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    Jerkoff

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  • Continued to support Democrats after they fucked him in the 2016 primary, I’m guessing?

    I don’t know, I still like him

  • Email Alternatives to Gmail

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  • Less than Google is, for now. But still bad enough for me to be switching to Tuta

  • USA Question | How much is a dozen large eggs near you?

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  • $5.75 - SW Michigan

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    Elon Musk's "Hitler Problem" - SOME MORE NEWS

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  • This was made a few months ago, and I don’t think they edited the video to say anything about the events of the past few days. Further proof though, that there is a long history of his behavior here. He’s not a Nazi because he did the salute, he did the salute because he’s a Nazi.

  • Working on yourself is hard in the 21st century. Not only do you have to work to improve yourself but you have to do it at a rate faster than the world going to shit around you.

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  • And you have to do it within the narrow time and energy constraints created by needing to work to stay alive.

  • Migrate from YunoHost to Docker?

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  • I’ll definitely do that! Thanks for the recommendations

  • Migrate from YunoHost to Docker?

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  • Why is that? I’m switching away regardless, so I’m just curious. I started using it because it made everything simple

  • Migrate from YunoHost to Docker?

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  • I don’t use any *arr, though I’ve been meaning to look more into it. I do use Jellyfin though, so I’ll probably start there.

    I’ll take a look at Nginx proxy manager for domain configuration, like another user in this thread suggested

  • Migrate from YunoHost to Docker?

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  • Thank you! That’s helpful. How would you go about setting up a password and 2FA for your own site? I would like to make my services “publicly” available (to myself and friends/family)

  • Migrate from YunoHost to Docker?

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  • Thank you!

    Are there any simple services you’d recommend starting with to get a feel for things? I’ll probably start with AdGuard, unless there’s a better option

    And I don’t plan to use both at the same time, so conflicting ports shouldn’t be an issue.

    Is the process for configuring your own domain with Docket enough of a pain that I should consider sticking with YunoHost?

  • Thoughts on RiseUP?

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  • My issue was not that Andy Yen made the comment he did (as much as I disagree). My problem was the Proton account making an official statement doubling down on it.

    He did make a subsequent post trying to clarify and apologize, but at this point, the cat is out of the bag, IMO. I’m switching to Tuta for email, Mullvad for VPN, and self-hosting Nextcloud for storage.

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    Is marijuana-induced psychosis a real thing or is it just more reefer madness scaremongering?

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  • It is pretty much just scaremongering. Marijuana, like any drug, can put a person in a mental state that can serve as a trigger for a psychological condition that someone is prone to, like if someone with a family history of anxiety gets way too uncomfortably high. It’s not necessarily the drug that’s at fault - it’s having a stressful experience of a bad time. I’ve never heard of psychosis induced by cannabis though.

    Marijuana is just about the safest drug there is, and I think most people could safely try it with no ill effects.

  • Is a software developer working for an "evil" company more or as guilty than/as a building maintenance technician?

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  • When I was in high school, I excelled in math and science, so I was pushed super hard to go into engineering for college. I ended up changing majors eventually, but holy shit did I not understand just how strong the engineering school -> “defense” industry pipeline is. They recruit engineering students hard

    It was an eye-opening experience, realizing just how many people were comfortable working for these companies as long as they got a fat paycheck